Should I take the surname of my father or mother?

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Assalam Alaykoum,

I will convert to
Islam soon and thus need to think about changing my western first name, middle
name and surname (also called �family name� or �last name�).

I just read this
article: https://islamqa.info/en/7180

At the very bottom of
the article it is written:
 4. The child must be named after his father
even if the father is deceased or divorced, etc., even if he does not take care
of the child or see him at all. It is utterly haraam to name a child after
anyone other than his father, except in one case, which is when the child is
born as the result of adultery (Allaah forbid). In this case the child should
be named after his mother and it is not permissible to name him after his
father.

My non-Muslim father
married a non-Muslim women, lived with her for 15 years, had 3 children with
her, then they separated and never saw each other again (except for one
occasion perhaps).

My father then met my non-Muslim
mother, they lived together for 25 years, they had 1 children (me), then my
father died.

The problem is: My
father never officially divorced with the other women, he never officially
married my mother, when he died he officially was still married to the other
women.

Thus my question is: For
my surname, should I take the surname of my father or the surname of my mother?

Another idea would be
to take the surname of one of my parents as my surname, and take the surname of
my other parent as my middle name.

I have four options:

1) My surname =
surname of my father ; My middle name = nothing

2) My surname =
surname of my mother ; My middle name = nothing

3) My surname =
surname of my father ; My middle name = surname of my mother

4) My surname =
surname of my mother ; My middle name = surname of my father

I personally have no preference.