To Muslim women...

Assalamu Alaikum Sister Herjihad:

Well, I am much more emotional than my husband. That doesn't mean that I am feeble-minded or lack intelligence and logic, it just means that things affect me on a more emotional level than they do my husband, and probably most men.

I am sorry to hear about your friend, it is always sad when men behave so badly. If she has gone to the Imam and explained her situation and they have done nothing, then she should go to another Imam. But, there is only so much they can do, no-one can force a man to be responsible or to follow Allah's laws.

Why does the Sister you know in this situation stay with her husband?

Bismillah,

There are women, like you Sister Mishmish, who are more emotional than their husbands, and there are women like me whose husbands are more emotional than them. 

The sister has actually achieved an Islaamic divorce after many years.  However, the Brother needs to spend his money on the kids and her as well instead of himself and his own selfish desires as he does.  People ask where to send their charity, and I would like them to send some to her and her children.

She is pretty busy homeschooling, working and caring for her kids and life generally.  Imam shopping isn't on her list.  She has gone to the local, large mosque, and they have misguided her and deserted her financially.  The Brothers need to take action with their brother in Islaam, but they are too shy or something.  Whatever.

Ameen, Brother Peacemaker.