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   asallaum allaikum.  i am muslim convert as well.  i am a muslim on my own free will.  i want to be a better muslim but i know that it is quite impossible for me to be. yet from day to day i struggle to be a good muslim.  
i don't sweat my insignificant flaws and weaknesses (especially if i don't harm anybody) because living in this this unIslamic country, in this day of age ..it is but only very difficult to follow the life of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).  
i am accountable for own actions but if i once in a while i err or make the wrong choices and/or judgement, or drink alcohol on special occasions; all the more in awe i am of the type of person the Prophet(pbuh) was!
yours,
baisha

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baisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 27 December 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote baisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 28 December 2005 at 10:28am
	asallaum allaikum. i am muslim convert as well. i am a muslim on my own free will. i want to be a better muslim but i know that it is quite impossible for me to be. yet from day to day i struggle to be a good muslim. i don't sweat my insignificant flaws and weaknesses (especially if i don't harm anybody) because living in this this unIslamic country, in this day of age ..it is but only very difficult to follow the life of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). i am accountable for own actions but if i once in a while i err or make the wrong choices and/or judgement, or drink alcohol on special occasions; all the more in awe i am of the type of person the Prophet(pbuh) was! yours, baisha

Muslim Friend Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 28 October 2005 Status: Offline Points: 83	Post Options Post Reply Quote Muslim Friend Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 December 2005 at 1:46pm
	I'd just to like to make all the new converts who struggle every day feel slightly better in knowing that all muslims struggle regardless of whether you were born a muslim or converted.
	O Allah! Bless Muhammad and let his be the place close to you on the day of Resurrection.

arabia Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 05 February 2006 Status: Offline Points: 28	Post Options Post Reply Quote arabia Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 19 March 2006 at 9:47am
	asalamualaykum , ray my advice is that read the Quran and Hadith and try praying and if you know any muslims have them help you and tell you more stuff about islam you will quit drinking i know well for now good luck. masalama Edited by peacemaker

mortazaB Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 07 April 2006 Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote mortazaB Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 April 2006 at 3:54pm
	Brother, go to the Masijd [mosque], a lot of prople there to help you on your path.

Mishmish Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 01 November 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1694	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mishmish Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 April 2006 at 10:39am
	Assalamu Alaikum Brother: If you have an addictive or compulsive personality it is very difficult to change a habit, but it can be done. You have to replace it with something else. This sounds easy, but can be extremely difficult. The best way is to identify why you are drinking. What does it give you? Does it make you feel better, make you forget, make you more confident? When do you drink? A specific time of day, when you feel sad or lonely? Once you identify these triggers, you can work to change the environment that makes the triggers occur: if you drink when you are at home alone, go out. If you drink when you are feeling sad, find an activity that will occupy you when you start to feel the sadness coming on. If you drink when you feel lonely, go to the mosque or volunteer, anything to be around other people. I know it sounds easier than it is, but the first step to changing any negative or detrimental behavior is to identify and replace. If you feel that you do not have the strength to do this alone, or you are not sure exactly what triggers you, then seek help from professional sources such as counseling or Alcoholics Anonymous. There is nothing in Islam that forbids seeking help. Most importantly, you must sincerely want to change, and have faith in Allah(SWT) that He will give you strength in this struggle.
	It is only with the heart that one can see clearly, what is essential is invisible to the eye. (The Little Prince)

ray045 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 August 2005 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote ray045 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 10 April 2006 at 7:14am


ray045 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 August 2005 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 7	Post Options Post Reply Quote ray045 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 10 April 2006 at 7:23am
	Assalamu Alaikum Thank you for all your kind support and suggestions. I have failed very recently by drinking alcohol. i felt so guilty that I did not pray Salat the next day because I believed that Allah Subhana Wa'tala would not forgive me. I had made up my mind that I was not worthy of Allahs Mercy and of the religion and counted myself amongst the Hypocrites. I have since started performing Salat again and asking for Forgiveness. I sincerely hope that this was a one of and the Allah will guide me on the Straight Path.