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Topic: relationship
Posted By: Imani
Subject: relationship
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 3:26am
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As a teenager i need to know more about relationships so dear reader help me.
what does islam say about boy-girl relationship. Is it accetped in islam.
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Posted By: Saladin
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 9:20am
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Assalamu Alaikum,
I think its no sin for a boy and girl to meet and be friends, as long as the girl is accompanied by a male relative like brother, father or uncle. If that relationship develops into love, its best to get married as soon as possible, with the permission of the girl's family. The only criteria the girl's family should be looking from the boy is that, he's a good muslim and will take good care of the girl.
Marriage is another topic.
As for interfaith relationship and marriage; No for it. Such relationship endure only if one partner compromises in his/her belief. If we believe in Allah, our primary concern should be the hereafter. We should not waste our chances in the hereafter for the illusive happines of this world.
These are my views and thoughts. I think you should move this and the 2 other topics you've posted to the apporpriate sections, so that the other members and the learned ones could answer your queries.
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Posted By: Imani
Date Posted: 29 October 2008 at 1:35am
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Salam.
thank you. I think i will do what you suggested but how do I do that? ------------- "But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7) peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM |
Posted By: jennibear
Date Posted: 30 October 2008 at 9:53am
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asalam alaikum.
boyfriend-girlfriend relations arent allowed. we are encouraged to marry. if you want to get to know the other person, you should do so in a way that you are not alone with them.
when a girl and boy alone together, the third presence is satan.
may Allah guide you.
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Posted By: Gulliver
Date Posted: 09 November 2008 at 1:24am
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If Islam is about equality for men and women. Why, at least, are the boys not chaparoned as well ?
Such relationship endure only if one partner compromises in his/her belief. If we believe in Allah, our primary concern should be the hereafter.
So the fear of hell is more important than a successful relationship ? Even though it would appear/seem that is what Allah would wish - a 'successful relationship,' between two people ?
Interfaith marriages.
If both have faith in God, this is not good enough ? There is a choice instead to breach the mandate - no 'compulsion in religion,' and choose not to take "Jews or Christians as 'friends'". It's tantamount to what is being suggested here.
Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.
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Posted By: Saladin
Date Posted: 16 November 2008 at 4:46am
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If Islam is about equality for men and women. Why, at least, are the boys not chaparoned as well ?
The male relative is there for the girl's protection and with him around it doesnt matter if the boy is chaperoned or not.
So the fear of hell is more important than a successful relationship ? Even though it would appear/seem that is what Allah would wish - a 'successful relationship,' between two people ?
How more can a marriage be successful than the one between a consenting couple sharing the same belief, ideals and values. So dont worry, muslims can marry muslims and maintain a successful relationship plus the way God wants it.
And yeah! I so desperately want to avoid Hell.
If both have faith in God, this is not good enough ?
Faith in God is perhaps what people of all theistic religions have in common but the commonality is only in words. Practically, all faith is diverse, thats why there's muslims, christians, jews, etc. each of them convinced they are right and the others are not right. Given the differences, interfaith marriages dont work, like I said, unless one compromises on his/her belief. Such compromises are unneccessary when intrafaith marriages can offer successful relationships.
- no 'compulsion in religion,'
109:006 - Unto you your religion, and unto me my religion.
choose not to take "Jews or Christians as 'friends'".
005:057 - O ye who believe! Take not for friends and protectors those who take your religion for a mockery or sport,- whether among those who received the Scripture before you, or among those who reject Faith; but fear ye Allah, if ye have faith (indeed).
Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated.
Oooh.....I'm scared.
------------- 'Trust everyone but not the devil in them' |
Posted By: Imani
Date Posted: 17 November 2008 at 1:29am
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Oooh.....I'm scared
lol! what ever you said is indeed correct.
Islam as a way of life can be very complicated if you want it to be. But on the other hand, you will find it easy and interesting if you follow the wise and simple rules of it. [islam]
ALLAh knows best so let as always invite Him into our daily lifes. ------------- "But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7) peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM |
Posted By: Akhe Abdullah
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 7:58am
As salaamulaikum Brother.I think you said it well. 
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Posted By: Akhe Abdullah
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 8:00am
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jennibear wrote:Posted By: Akhe Abdullah
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 8:06am
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Posted By: Imani
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 9:22pm
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salam abdullah.
thanks a lot. May ALLAH also bestow HIS mercies upon you.
Amen! ------------- "But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7) peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM |