Hello Taryn,

Here is a very useful site for basic information about Islam:

http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/index.shtml - http://www.islamonline.net/english/introducingislam/index.sh tml

On this page you will find many sections on different topics, including marriage (which you'll find under "Family").

I would suggest you start by reading this and other basic information about Islam and then ask any specific questions you might have.  Either way, I would urge you to educate yourself very well about Islam and get all your questions answered before you agree to marriage!

Take your time, educate yourself, ask questions and be settled in your heart before you decide that marrying a Muslim man is what is good for you.  There are a lot of very excellent and pious Muslim men out there, but, as in any kind of community, there are the "others" - some women have been burned by those with ill intentions or ulterior motives.

Children of Muslim men are supposed to be raised as Muslims.  If your man isn't insisting on this, I would question his intentions.

Please feel free to post any questions you might have (or send me a Private Message by clicking on the PM button at the bottom of my post).  I am sure there are others who will proffer their opinions to you as well.

I wish you the best.

Peace, ummziba.

Welcome Tayrn,

I hope you will be able to find answers to all of your questions.  As like Jenni, I also married a Muslim man before I converted (but don't take this as if you have to convert).  After reading and asking questions, I found that Islam was the truth.  My husband has been very kind and told me that it would be wrong for me to accept Islam just on the basis of marraige; it had to come from my heart.  A few good resources are A Brief Illustrated Guide to Understanding Islam and http://www.fethullahgulen.org - www.fethullahgulen.org Fethullah Gulen is a leading scholar who is active in Interfaith Dialouge and Tolerance between religions.  He has written numerous books about Prophet Muhammed(pbuh), Islam, Modern Issues and books for Childern.  All the books are translated into English and free to read off the internet.

Please feel free to email me any questions you might have.

Lehua

Dear sister

i think it would help you to look into the site http://www.islamonline.net - www.islamonline.net

Go to teh cyber counsellor section and read the issues that sometimes arise between interracial , interreligious and intercultural marriage . It can keep you away from harm to learn experiences of other people. You can also look at non muslim women marrying a muslim man section in teh cyber counsellor . The cyber counsellor is arranged by topics . It will be very very very helpful to you and very informative. The people there care about every body and wouldnt want any one get hurt and they help non muslims alot .

May Allah make your marriage a happy one

Peace

Meedo

Hi Taryn,

I am a born muslim. I suggest the below website for you to get to know Islam in a broader light. May Allah guide you...

www.hyahya.org

Dear Taryn

Please do read the following books and translations of Quran:

1. The message of Quran bu Muhammad Asad (ex Laopold Weiss)

2. Islam at the crossroads     //          //         &nbs p;  //

3. The road to Makkah          //          //         &nbs p;   //

4. Struggling to Surrender      by     Jeffery Lang.

5.  Even Angels Ask    //         &nbs p; //        //.

6.  The Meaning of Quran  by    Abdullah  Yousaf Ali.

7.  The Translations of Quran   by Marmaduke Pikthall  and the other by Prof. T. B . Irving.

These are excellent and most well written books on Islam and the translations are most closest to Arabic. If you want some material I can post it to you.

mailto:[email protected] - [email protected]    [email protected]

Shams  Zaman   Pakistan.

 It is very simple if you reflect upon these words,

Islam is an arabic word, it means submission for the sake of peace.

The submission to whom? Allah who is the creator and Lord of the worlds.

How does one submit to Allah? by obeying His laws and commands and leaving what He forbids and dislikes. Very simple. His laws and commands are found in the torah, evangel and koran. These are the only books you need.

For the peace of whom does one submit to Allah? for the peace with Allah. because through submitting to His will one achieves The peace with Him (the goal of every true faithful wether jew christian or "muslim") this is why we say "upon them is the peace" when we talk about the messengers and prophets of Allah. Because they achieved the peace with Him through them doing His will.

What is a hypocrite or munafiq? it is he who submits to Allah not for the sake of peace with Him, but for the sake of peace and acceptance of people. They value the opinions of men as more important then that of Allah and with this false striving they fool their ownselves. How humiliating will it be for him who will stand before The Lord with all the deeds of a faithful but with an intention other then to please Him with this obediance to His will. Pleasing Allah means peace with Him.

The way is clear, the faith is clear so strive to please your Lord as a jew christian or muslim. There is no true faith except this submission to The Merciful for the sake of everlasting peace with Him.

christainwoman wrote: I am a Christain woman about to marry a muslim man. I need all the help that I can get from Muslims of any sex of any age. I need questions answered. I am trying to learn Islam for my sake, my future husbands sake and my future childrens sake. I am trying to find someone and anyone that will continue to talk with me and help me guide a way threw Islamic beliefs. Please someone help Taryn

You may or may not know this but Muslims are told by Allah in the Noble Qur'an not to marry non-Muslims.  You say that you want to learn about Islam for your husbands and childrens sake, the best way to do this is learn about Islam and decide whether you want to convert to Islam or not BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED, this prevents your husband from committing sin and provides a good example to your children.  In my opinion, this is the most respectable thing to do.

HELLO ALL,

I AM VERY HAPPY TO HAVE READ ALL REPLY'S ABOUT MARRYING A MUSLIM MAN.I HAVE NOT FOUND A NEGITIVE ANSWER YET.WHICH I FEEL IS GOOD. IT GOES TO SHOW THAT MUSLIM'S IS EVERYTHING I THOUGHT.(REAL...LOVING...KIND....PEOPLE TO)

AS I SAID BEFOR....I AM TRAVELING TO MOROCCO LAST OF SEPTEMBER TO BE MARRIED TO A MUSLIM MAN. ABDERRAHIM'S ADOUL IS GOING TO TALK WITH ME TO EXPLAIN ABOUT MUSLIM BELIEFIES.

HE IS VERY KIND. I THANK HIM MUCH.AND I THANK MY FRIEND HERE. YOU HAVE BEEN VERY KIND TO ME. LOVE YOU ALL.TAKE CARE.