The Family Life, the Boat that Fights the Waves
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Topic: The Family Life, the Boat that Fights the Waves
Posted By: Full of Hopes
Subject: The Family Life, the Boat that Fights the Waves
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:24am
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم اللهم صلي على نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه و سلم I pray that you are happy and increasing in Imaan. I really wanted to share some of my thoughts with my dear sisters and brothers here.  Many singles say we want to get married. BUT Before... WHAT IS MARRIAGE AND FAMILY LIFE? ARE WE READY? I heard one of my colleagues talking about her husband. She said he kept her waiting before marriage for 7 months cause he JUST WANTS to read and know more about marriage and FAMILY life so that he can be the best for her. He TOLD HER, the moment he is READY to be the LEADER is the moment he will go to her family home and PICK HER UP... I was LIKE WOW ALLAH AKBAR,, if every man think in this way, we should not have sadness and nor failure in our family lives.  DID you (man and woman) read about marriage in Islam and knew what Allah wants from you before you get married or you just found yourself married? DID you try to educate yourself on HOW to be a successful husband and DID you sister educate yourself on the way to be a successful pleasing wife for your husband??? Is life just going without goals?? Marriage for marriage???  ______________________________________ Please take your time to study this picture.. take days just for thinking even months....  ON THIS SHIP IS YOUR FAMILY.. you are two
sailors,, man and woman.. your dearest people are your KIDS... they are
the people on this ship. You sail in the SEA of this life. This SEA is not always quiet.. Sometimes the weather becomes so bad and the ship will be fighting the waves.. and your dearest people will be in danger. YOU must keep paddling.. TWO SAILORS must work hard so that the ship is safe and happy. This is the happy family. Then they are enjoying the life on the ship,, the beautiful calm ship they sail on. DID you think before that you are gonna be the SAILOR and on the ship is your life? The dearest people in your life??? IF YOU are NOT ready to sail then learn then get married?? BUT if you think it is just time out then you will destroy your ship and they will all sink!!!!! This is the reality of this beautiful life.. Take Care..  -------------  And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Posted By: Full of Hopes
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:29am
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10 Tips to be a successful Husband
1. Dress up well for one's wife: Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time you men looked good to please your wives.Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasullullah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells. 2. Use likable names for your wife: Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings. 3. Recognize the good & focus on that: Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that. 4. Be silent on the wrongs: If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasullullah(sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhum. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered. 5. Smile at your wife: Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasullullah(sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam)- would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting. 6. Thank her: Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her! 7. Make her happy: Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your Life. 8. Comfort her: Don't be-little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. 9. Be humorous: Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha -radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that? 10. Try to be the Best: Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best! In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !! http://alislaah4.tripod.com/moreadvices2/id27.htm - ------------- And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Posted By: Full of Hopes
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:38am
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10 Tips on How to be a Successful Wife
1. Use your �Fitnah� to win the heart of your husband All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband. 2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him. 3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur�an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to �enlarge� them, and sing to your husband. 4. Always wear jewelry and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur�an. As a wife, continue to use the jewelry that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband. 5. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humor. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. 6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire. 7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple �I�m sorry� even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, �Look, I�m sorry. Let�s be friends.� 8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him. 9. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect. 10. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta�ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta�ala - into Jannah. Allah Hafiz.. ------------- And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:08pm
Great analogy!
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