[Shakir 3:7] He it is Who has revealed the Book to you; some of its verses are decisive, they are the basis of the Book, and others are allegorical; then as for those in whose hearts there is perversity they follow the part of it which is allegorical, seeking to mislead and seeking to give it (their own) interpretation. but none knows its interpretation except Allah, and those who are firmly rooted in knowledge say: We believe in it, it is all from our Lord; and none do mind except those having understanding.

Your intitled to your opinions just as I am intitled to mine, I am not presenting laws just articles I have written after 43 years of research and suffering.

Beware least yee caste doubht on another that dought is not caste on yee.  ALEH 

Anne Marie Elderkin-Habibi

At least when I speak I never hide my real name like others I won't mention....

May Allah Bless you Abundantly and may you generously remember and share the wealth Allah has given you with the Women still being beaten,, the children still straving, the orphans left to beg and homeless and to those soldiers left bleeding in the streets.

Salam Alaikoam

Anne Marie Elderkin-Habibi

Anna though words you speak of are noble they hurt religiously,

You yourself know that a lot of what you say Islam does not condone even though Islam is peace. A lot of what you say you yourself dont even know their meaning so how can we take you seriously? I think you maybe slightly misguided but your heart is in the right place. You are not fopreign in the sight of God and I pray for your guidence.

Thank you, I have always said and will always say I am learning what the process of Islam means and must be.

All I have written are of course my understanding and beliefs after 43 years of research and suffering and I have no Iron rod just one person expressing what she understands and believes and as you know beliefs sometimes given new better imformation do change.

Inshallah may Allah guide us all well.

I did not mean to hurt anyones feelings.

Alaikoam Salam

Anne Marie Elderkin-Habibi (ALEH)

Israfil wrote: Anna though words you speak of are noble they hurt religiously,   You yourself know that a lot of what you say Islam does not condone even though Islam is peace. A lot of what you say you yourself dont even know their meaning so how can we take you seriously? I think you maybe slightly misguided but your heart is in the right place. You are not fopreign in the sight of God and I pray for your guidence.

Jazak allah khair, Israfil.

I have been recently monitoring all the rebuke and rejection Anne is recieving, but she is enduring it with so much of poise and large heartedness.

I want to talk to Anne shortly, insha allah. It is nice to see there are people like yourself on this forum who have tolerance for her.

Very nice comments.

Maa salaama,

Nausheen

Thank you Sister Alaikoam Salam

I am getting worse from the non Muslim community than this.

This project is my DAWAH as well as working at being a good and healthy person not afraid to assist others when and where I can.

It is a big challenge however when I realize that even a little consideration of the body of work I have written in some thirty articles and 20 or so prayers may make even a small difference it is worth the hurtful rebuttals I recieve because I understand and have Faith that I can make a difference even in a small way in someones life.

Islam is making a difference in my life and I am so entusiastic with sharing it I often need to remember not all people have experienced what I have or read what I have read or observed what I observed.

Salam

Anne Marie Elderkin Habibi (ALEH)

Auzubillahi minash shaitan ir rajeem,

Bismillah ir rahman ir rahim,

Dear Anne,

Assalamuaalikum wa rahamtullah wa barkatuhu,

I have not read many of your posts, but one of the recent threads I was following, I saw that you have a complain against people not reading you well enough to understand.Which may be true in part, the other part being your presentation.

For example, I saw in your post about True Islam ... you have said that true islam shows respect to all. Indeed sis, this is true, but another truth is that true Islam priscribes a dress code. It can be any dress of any material or color (in general), as long as it is descent. Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. Thus there is nothing wrong in wearing good clothes, stiched in whichever fashion. Islam aslo does not teach us to disrespect people if their choices are not in accordance with islam. So far any muslim should agree to these facts. However in your post these were presented in such a way that these spelled as if Islam allows, accepts, or condones dresses that may be indecent - this is not true. 

You see am not denying that allah loves His creation, so there cannot be a doubt that allah loves the human being in that woman who may be seen in public in scanty clothing. However Allah has created everyone special. Women are special and their beauty is thus speacial. And He did not create this beauty just for anyone to behold. Just like he created a beautiful pearl, that is hidden within a shell deep in the ocean.

You discussed the respect that humans should have towards others, but beyond this humans should have respect towards their Creator ... Who is most compassionate, beneficient, and merciful. He is most deserving  of all, of respect -of respect towards His ultimate wisdom, deserving of respect towards His ordainments. - deserving respect towards his commandments, and His prohibitions.

And look allah has created the heavens and the earth in due proportion ... in a balance. There is balance in everything that is created by Allah.

It is this balance which if you add in your writings, you will have a bigger audiance. Your words are so beautiful, yet ironically they reach such a small crowd. If you work a little harder to aportion them with a balanced truth, they can help a huge crowd. The power in your writing which is missing, is because of this lack of balance. please try, for Allah is with those who seek guidance.

 ppl are pointing you to deliver the truth in a different shade ... maybe in it is a sign for you. A sign you should not ignore or avoid.

May Allah guide you to pure truth, ameen.

Maa salaama,

Nausheen

Alaikoam Salam

You make some excellent points

The reason I wrote as I have is that unfortunately some people neglect to respect the beauty and High Station Allah gave each of us when He breathed into us His Spirit.

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It is most certainly not to cause Fitnah or confusion why I explain things as I do.  I mean no disrespect in anything I say.

Just doing as I feel and in some ways Allah guides me to respond to any given situation, of course as with anyone I welcome correction and consideration.

Salam

Anne Marie Elderkin-HAbibi. 

Alas my spelling is a bitt off as my keyboards are in need of replacement, but thank you sis for your comments. I only hope Sister Anne will eventually come to the understanding of the experience of Islam...

I promise you pointing out someone's spelling errors was not my intent, God knows how many mistakes I make per day I lost count and Hope that God will forgive me for them, I was merely using it as an analogy that learning doesn't stop after 43 years of research. Perhaps I should have used a less obnoxious example, though it might not serve a purpose but imagine perhaps that your family physician stopped taking continuing education courses and is off treating people with what he thinks is good medicine though the consensus believes that it is not the appropriate way to practice. We are all shaped in a way with our own thought processes and many of us can't imagine life running along a different axis or perspective. everyday I Know there is someone out there to teach me something, and today you have taught me that I might have been a bit insensitive in using my analogy so I thank you and I ask for your "d3wat" I am going through a bit of a hard time in my life right now

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullah,

Thank you for your response. Indeed you are not trying to cause fitnah, may allah reward you for the good intentions you have. Alhamdulillah it does explain a little further, with your exemplifications of child abuse.

When you said true islam respects people despite of what they wear or do not wear, it really did not strike you were pointing at kids. Coz at very young age children do not choose their own dresses.

I agree that child abuse should be dealt with in the society, with whatever social protocols different governments undertake. Nevertheless the bigger problems which lead to these crimes should be carefully looked into. I wonder how many organizations have ventured to evaluate what the root causes be. Some studies say that the images that a brain sees, can almost never be cleaned. Whatever is registered in the subconscious has a role to play on personality. Where these abusers are coming from. What is their family background. How was their childhood. What caused such a personality development. Only treating the abuser is not enough. The reasons that breed such abusers should be nipped.

The life style of most of the fast cities of the world has so many drawbacks on the brain of a human being. The rush and frenzy humanity is involved in today, has given birth to broken families, divorce, single parents. To run away from personal problems people take refuge in wine, series of illegitimate sexual partners, meaningless passtimes like pubs, gambling, may be pornography.

All these things are prohibited in Islam. Islam encourages people to get marriad, and upholds high values for a decent family life - where kids should be given ample attention a lot of care shld be given to their upbringing, character building etc. Islam also encourages a simple living, not runing for high standards in life, charity etc, that binds people together.

I want to write more sis, but have to cut this short as something has come up, hope we will stay in touch.

Maa salaama,

Nausheen

Alaikoam Salam

Nausheen

In saying that regardless of whether someone is married or not and entering into a relationship I am just recognizing that these things happens and it is the will of Allah that should or when these things happen that both partners respect one another and not abuse one another in any manner, like some men use women and disgard them, I am saying they cannot do this if they want relations they must respect the one giving them the gift of their body and time as currently some men (Once in a whiole a woman) tend to feel women are their toys to use and toss away so I am saying if they want what they want thenm they have to behave better or Allah will chastise them and send them to counseling, healthy boundaries school etc.

As I mentioned I am only writting my enthusiasm for Islam and the process of Islam and I hope my articles help people think a little differently and maybe make them smile Inshallah and give hope.

As for Marriage I am all for it and I think that when there are open lines of communication and all issues are consulted on with the marriage and with counselors like when sexual health problems come up then the partner with the problem with their spouse will go to the Doctor and say I am having this kind of problem what can I do, or we have been mkarried many years and I do not feel as attracted to my partner because they gain weight and I am at loss at what to do to encourage them to get healthy not to mention some cultural issues that keep women in the house and this leads to them gaining many pounds and becoming less attractive some times or it can be the man too any way encourage them they can get help with their problems and Allah is desperate for them to be healthy because less money spent on illnesses and maritial breakdown then more money to give Zakat to the poor or a Charity or school to educate the poor or abusive peoples that beat their partner or children.

They can be a hero like Mohammed PBUH  and lead the people by their positive actions in correcting themselves by going to workshops and learning Healthy Boundaries, Good Communications, Conflict Resolution Skills, Parenting Skills, Family Planning, Education Planning and How to establish and nurture or grow a healthy relationship, family and children.

Even the worst Monster among us is not worthless in the sight of Allah for He Breathed of His Spirit into them also and Allah never Created anything that was worthless.

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If we want to love Allah We must Love ourselves and get counseling or training to end abuses in our lives.  Thus accepting responsibility for our actions or inactions and the resulting ill will or ill health or stress this caused and take small steps towards being better people and with each step towards positive change it is a living prayer answered in the eyes of Allah and Mankind.  Then the Station of each person is raised a little Higher than the day before because they strive in the Cause of Allah, God in becoming A Bright Light to Others, a Leader, A Hero and The Message of their life slowly begins to change from one of many things, hate, rage, ignorance, poverty, apathy to one where all People learn to care for one another and the seen and the unseen with Affirmatiions of Faith.

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Ambrosia said:

>>>Alas my spelling is a bitt off as my keyboards are in need of replacement<<<< -Hey this is my excuse

On a side note Sister Nausheen has taken the words out of my mouth...hmmm Sis Nausheen you're a thief I see.......

Auzubillahi minash shaitan ir rajeem,

Bismillah ir rahman ir rahim,

Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullah wa barkatuhu,

Israfil, perhaps you should avoid eating near the computer. Crums settle under the keyboard which make it bad

I stole your words ... hmm. Its is comfortable to have likemindedness in the vicinity, alhamdulillah.

Sister Anne,

you said:

In saying that regardless of whether someone is married or not and entering into a relationship I am just recognizing that these things happens and it is the will of Allah that should or when these things happen that both partners respect one another and not abuse one another in any manner, like some men use women and disgard them, I am saying they cannot do this if they want relations they must respect the one giving them the gift of their body and time as currently some men (Once in a whiole a woman) tend to feel women are their toys to use and toss away so I am saying if they want what they want thenm they have to behave better or Allah will chastise them and send them to counseling, healthy boundaries school etc.

There is difference between the will of Allah and good pleasure of Allah. A muslim believes that nothing happens without the will and knowledge of Allah. When a person commits murder that is also from the will of Allah otherwise he would not have been able to do it.

In the same way when two people commit adultery, the will of Allah is there, however, His permission is not there. The act does not have good pleasure of Allah in it. Allah is as-Sabir. His servents enter into deeds that He has forbidden, yet He bestows His mercy on them in this world. That is His greatness. however, it is not from servitude or serventhood, that we humans dare to commit deeds that are forbidden. This marrs the purity of the soul.

It is the utmost desire of the shaytan to see the servants of Allah in disobedience. He gives suggestions to the nafs, and humans becomes slaves of their desires. Those who cannot have self control to be obedient to their Creator, it is not safe to expect from them behaviors of uprightness and high values. When a man or a woman entrust their honor to such people, there is little good that should be expected to come out of it.  That is why we have religion to guide us.

Instead of expecting people to behave noble while they are in disobedience, they should be guided to the obedience of Allah, and that would be the best outcome of the efforts.

s for Marriage I am all for it and I think that when there are open lines of communication and all issues are consulted on with the marriage and with counselors like when sexual health problems come up then the partner with the problem with their spouse will go to the Doctor and say I am having this kind of problem what can I do, or we have been mkarried many years and I do not feel as attracted to my partner because they gain weight and I am at loss at what to do to encourage them to get healthy not to mention some cultural issues that keep women in the house and this leads to them gaining many pounds and becoming less attractive some times or it can be the man too any way encourage them they can get help with their problems and Allah is desperate for them to be healthy because less money spent on illnesses and maritial breakdown then more money to give Zakat to the poor or a Charity or school to educate the poor or abusive peoples that beat their partner or children.

It is said by our holy prophet(SAW) that the spouses should take care to maintain their outward appearence for their marriage partner. it is not from the sunnah to let oneself grow fat, and unattractive. People should care about this. And I agree with you regarding councelling if there is a problem within the marriage. It is always advisable to make efforts and take help to keep the bond intact.

I see what you wanted to convey by your short story. If the sister loved her husband so much she should have tried to contact a friend or a relative or any person of influence, who could make the husband understand that he is oppressing his wife, and must stop.

Maa salaama,

Nausheen

Lots for me to consider will drop by tommorrow to reply more fully.

Ameen

ALEH