Assalaamoalaikum Alaikum Apa79. I used to test people for HIV and Syphillis, in 2003-2004. First of all, I am sure that you are aware that having premarital sex will increase your chance of contacting a sexual transmitted disease like this. What is more important is that you need to stop having premarital sex, and ask forgiveness from Allah. I also had to be educated in Herpes and other sexual transmitted illnesses due to the fact that these illnesses will increase the chance of someone contacting HIV. YOu need to get an HIV test as well.  In 2003, at that time, the only way that you can test someone for herpes is to test the herpes when there is a physical outbreak of it. So if you have an outbreak in your genitals, that means that you have type 2 even if you have recieved it from type 1 (cold sore). Even if the doctor gives you medicine to treat your type 2 herpes, you will never be able to have unprotected sex with your future wife,  without her having a high chance of getting herpes as well. Because the virus constantly sheds itself even when it is not a breakout, so  therefore it can still be passed to your future wife.  Most people pass herpes without ever having an visible outbreak. That is why most people who have it do not know that they have it until they get an external outbreak. My advice for you is that you have to always tell your future wife or wives that you have herpes. This should always be done before the agreement of marriage. This is bad not to do thiis. If she agree to this marriage after you have made this illness known to her, then that is her decision. You will even have to consider that your children could be born with herpes as well, so that is why if a woman was expose to it, she is encouraged to have C section.  Even if your future wife does not have a break out, the only way that she will be able to know if she has herpes 2 is if there is an outbreak of it, and then a sample of the fluid will be collected so that it can be tested.  I do think that you should tell an elder in your family about this as well, but I would not say that you should refuse to marry.  Some women do not want to have children or some women may want to take this risk with them knowing beforehand of this. Also too, there are some websites for marriages of muslims seeking other muslim with herpes. I  do not know those websites, but I had  conversations with several other muslims sisters, who received herpes from their cheating husbands, or from other personal ways. Google it.  Since you said that you were recently diagnosed, then I hope that you have type 1 instead of type 2. Go get tested for all other sexually transmitted disease.  Pray to Allah (SWT) for forgiveness.  Good luck, once Allah (SWT) has forgiven you, then be responsible, and stop having premarital sex.  I do not want you to feel sad about this after you have ask Allah for forgiveness, because it could be worst than what you have now. Dont hide this from her, or whomever you need to report this too in your family. I would not recommend you telling the elders, but tell one person in your family who will be in charge of finding a nice muslim women for you. Do what is right because none of us can hide from our sins if we are not forgiven.