I have come to hate girls. I don't want to see their stupid faces any more. I am afraid I may turn gay because of their such ...  ,  huh!!!

They can't distinguish good guys from bad ones. They hanker after guys with seemingly perfectly-functioning bodies and with a lot of money. Whenever they learn of my OCD and shyness and poverty, they run away from me. Go to hell! Go to the hell of well-functioning men who will not hesitate to cheat on you with a lot of other women, either as second and third wives  or as their whores. Huh!

And do not come up with silly, boring articles about the permissibilty of marrying more than one wives. Even our Prophet (peace be upon him) himself was angry with his daughter Fatima's husband Ali  (May Allah be pleased with both of them) when he wanted to marry a second wife while Fatima of course didn't approve of this.

And these very women will be cheated on with mistresses not second wives.

Come on Mustafaa! Few girls are like that, but the Famous Beauties sometimes are! Instead of hankering after the dream girls, how about chumming around with Regular Girls. You know, they're sorta like your sisters and the girls you saw in school. And just be a human to them, not the Male Macho Machine (the biggest lie in the male repertoire of lies is that women like rough-tough he-men guys: actually, they like humorous guys best).

I can see from your comments that you have limited experience chatting with women, so I advise you to use every opportunity to have casual conversations. Don't worry about the future, by which I mean intentions between you and any woman you talk to, or what your chums might say. Try this exercise: when you sit down at the lunch table with guys and girls do NOT talk with the guys (about sports or whatever) but talk to the girls! About what? Prepare by watching something silly on TV, like the Academy Awards. Say how much you liked or didn't like (it doesn't matter) some actresses hairdo or costume. In the future train yourself to look at things you know females are interested in, like clothes, homes, babies. You will enrich your life and you will find that girls think you utterly charming!

F

Hey I didn't realzie that this was a "revert" forum. 

But anyway, I am kind of a revert to Islam. Until the age of 13 or even further, I was a future secularist-nationalist-modernist. Then I began to read Turkish translations of the Qur'an, and all my life changed in the Islamic direction.

The funny thing is that the first translation that I read and that very likely made my outlook change the most had been given as a promotion by a secular-minded hypocrite newspaper.

Fezziwig,

Thank you for all your advice. I have been making very foolish talk about the last girl and all my problems on another forum these days. I don't know what to do... There are obstacles that prevent me from practsing your advice, especially about sitting with girls and talking, etc. Besides, I fear all of what I have been doing is very likely impermissible Islamically.

Anyway, may Allah guide me to the right way about this matter as well as all other matters. And may Allah guide us all to His straight path.

Fezziwig, once more I'd like to thank you for your reply.

I hope that you did not think I was annoyingly evangelizing even while talking about my life problems because of what I wrote about the true path, etc...

David, do you also think there's some problem with the spelling of your post?

(Come on Mustafaa! Few girls are like that, but the Famous Beauties sometimes are! Instead of hankering after the dream girls, how about chumming around with Regular Girls. You know, they're sorta like your sisters and the girls you saw in school. And just be a human to them, not the Male Macho Machine (the biggest lie in the male repertoire of lies is that women like rough-tough he-men guys: actually, they like humorous guys best).)

Guess fezziwig said it all.....that was the point i wanted to make., U men place a standard of taste that u can only find with problems(human nature), u prefer a challenge and find tough women very interesting, well as fezziwig suggested try something moderate and u would see a change inshaAllah!!!.

chastebeauty wrote: (Come on Mustafaa! Few girls are like that, but the Famous Beauties sometimes are! Instead of hankering after the dream girls, how about chumming around with Regular Girls. You know, they're sorta like your sisters and the girls you saw in school. And just be a human to them, not the Male Macho Machine (the biggest lie in the male repertoire of lies is that women like rough-tough he-men guys: actually, they like humorous guys best).)   Guess fezziwig said it all.....that was the point i wanted to make., U men place a standard of taste that u can only find with problems(human nature), u prefer a challenge and find tough women very interesting, well as fezziwig suggested try something moderate and u would see a change inshaAllah!!!.

I don't think this girl was too beautiful. But I may be wrong anyway. I know people think I am a great sinner hankering after girls. However, I have been suffering from the same loneliness for ages and do not know any way out, except [Moderator Edited] May Allah protect everyone from such a deviation. I hate homosexuality. May Allah take me out of these sinfulness and depression.

Please tone down your language. rami.

As-salaamu alaykum, brother Rami,

I didn't think the joke would be considered as not appropriate. I thought the following sentences were enough to make it clear that it was only a joke. That's not important, though.  

I just think you haven't meet the right girl, for you yet

I understand your problem, but maybe you have a high expectations on the girls and when this isn't met you don't like it and be frustrated. If you leave expectations about another then maybe you will get different views.

We all have our wants in what we want in another that is ok but sometimes alot of people, both men and women aim to high.

I think the girl has too high expectations rather than me.

Kim, you must first learn how to quote others and then to post your own message before you speak about your so important expectations from men.

fezziwig wrote: Mustafaa, If she's indifferent or hostile to you, forget her and move on! I know plenty guys who've pursued a hard nut like that and won, only to discover sadness and disappointment afterwards. My friend C chased the beautiful A for years until he caught her. He built a beautiful house for them, they had 3 daughters, all left him and now he lives alone and forsaken in his house with newspapers and empty frozen pizza containers piling up around him at age 68. He would not, could not, even come into town for the funeral of his best friend this summer. Do not let your vanity destroy you. Seek a jollier companion. F

I have already forgotten about her, Fezzwig. The thing about your friend that you mention is so meaningful for everybody...

Thank God, I am not the kind of person to chase a certain girl for a long time. There are plenty of girls out there, and one of them will probably love and marry me one day.

Mustafaa wrote: I have already forgotten about her

But your act looks, you have not forgoten her yet. You are just pretending.

Reena - do you hate Muslims because they're Muslims? It sort of appears that way, from your other post.

Don't have too much of a go at Mustafa - he was just venting some perfectly normal frustration. Girls _can_ be annoying! (so can boys)

Kim...

Dear Reena,

Since you are so sincere, why not spare yourself and leave... You have been posting some unpleasant and emotionally driven messages with some unsupported statements with regards to Islaam... possibly due to your distorted view of Islaam which you tend to be forming based on "he-said-she-said" and immaturity. 

Being against Islaam is being against Muslims... therefore your statement above, as well as many more that you have attempted throwing out in this forum, is not a product of rational thinking. 

Please, be polite, nobody forced you in and nobody is forcing you out...

Why do you call it 'the most barbaric religion in this world'? Where is your reasoning for such a statement? Does it stem from rumours you've heard or what you've been brought up to believe? Ask questions about Islam to ISLAMIC followers and we will tell you the truth. Then decide. Don't just keep saying I hate Islam, I hate Islam. Hear us out firdt. Please.

Salaam to you all.    

reena wrote: Dear kim     I am not against muslims.     I am   against muslim religion     and islam , the most crual barbaric     religion in this world                reena

Surah Al-Baqarah

97. Say (O Muhammad  SAW: "Whoever is an enemy to Jibr�l (Gabriel) (let him die in his fury), for indeed he has brought it (this Qur��n) down to your heart by All�h�s Permission, confirming what came before it [i.e. the Taur�t (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel)] and guidance and glad tidings for the believers.

98. Whoever is an enemy to All�h, His Angels, His Messengers, Jibr�l (Gabriel) and M�k��l (Michael), then verily, All�h is an enemy to the disbelievers."

119. Verily, We have sent you (O Muhammad SAW) with the truth (Isl�m), a bringer of glad tidings (for those who believe in what you brought, that they will enter Paradise) and a warner (for those who disbelieve in what you brought, that they will enter the Hell-fire). http://www.qurancomplex.com/Quran/Targama/Targama.asp?L=eng&Page=18#f2f2 - - ^- And you will not be asked about the dwellers of the blazing Fire.

Salam Brother, There are alot of religious girls out there looking for you, Depend on allah, Remember Allah and he will remember you. You will take your naseeb, insha�llah allah will reward you with a beautiful, religious wife and with her will come (risk)May allah open up for you and reward you for your patients.

ummsaleh wrote: Salam Brother, There are alot of religious girls out there looking for you, Depend on allah, Remember Allah and he will remember you. You will take your naseeb, insha�llah allah will reward you with a beautiful, religious wife and with her will come (risk)May allah open up for you and reward you for your patients.

Wa alaykum salaam, sister,

Thank you very much for the encouragement.

A few days ago, I saw the girl walking with a guy and talking cheerfully to him... Then I thought whether I should use a gun or a knife to slay them both... Haha, I was just kidding about killing them.

She did not deserve me... As you say, I'll marry a much better and much more pious girl, in shaa Allah. I pray that Allah will soon open new means of rizq for me and I will be able to get married soon.

Thank you once more.

Mustafaa

Amin...

Selam'un Aleykum Mustafa,

Karde� bu arada bo�azi�inden bir bayan var seviyeli olarak g�r��t���m kafa dengi,sanki farkl� bir�eyler var gibi ama hay�rl�s�...iyi birisi...bir ara g�r��elim benim bilgisayar ��kt� e-mailin kayboldu kusura bakma arayamad�m...

Suleyman wrote: Amin... Selam'un Aleykum Mustafa, Karde� bu arada bo�azi�inden bir bayan var seviyeli olarak g�r��t���m kafa dengi,sanki farkl� bir�eyler var gibi ama hay�rl�s�...iyi birisi...bir ara g�r��elim benim bilgisayar ��kt� e-mailin kayboldu kusura bakma arayamad�m...

Ve aleyk�m selam,

Yani in�allah evlenme ihtimaliniz mi var? Senin ya��n benden de baya��  b�y�k; m�r�vvetini yak�nda g�rmek, en az�ndan internetle duymak istiyorum, S�leyman abi!

Mustafaa wrote: Suleyman wrote: Amin... Selam'un Aleykum Mustafa, Karde� bu arada bo�azi�inden bir bayan var seviyeli olarak g�r��t���m kafa dengi,sanki farkl� bir�eyler var gibi ama hay�rl�s�...iyi birisi...bir ara g�r��elim benim bilgisayar ��kt� e-mailin kayboldu kusura bakma arayamad�m... Ve aleyk�m selam, Yani in�allah evlenme ihtimaliniz mi var? Senin ya��n benden de baya��  b�y�k; m�r�vvetini yak�nda g�rmek, en az�ndan internetle duymak istiyorum, S�leyman abi!

Bakal�m karde� hay�rl�s�...kendine iyi bak...