Looking for help!
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Topic: Looking for help!
Posted By: Annie86
Subject: Looking for help!
Date Posted: 08 April 2014 at 9:20am
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Ok i will start by saying, this has took me along time to find somewhere were i feel i can ask for help! I feel deeply embarrassed and highly ashamed of what i am about to write.
So here goes........... I first was interested in Islam when i was about 16/17 years old due to being in a relationship with a Muslim guy. Even though we broke up i still dressed modestly. Fast forward a few years. Ok so in 2006 i had alot of ups and downs in my life, i have struggled with mental health (bi-polar).. and a friend i had said he could make me Muslim so i agreed, he told me to say a sentence and then i would be Muslim. after this i rapidly changed i changed my name legally i completely covered up including niqab (All within a week)... By now i had no-one, my family disowned me and i had no friends at all. i was to scared to go to mosque alone. So i found a husband via single Muslims site. i didn't meet him but his sister in law. We was married within a week. i feel i just wanted help. it didn't last as i was still un medicated for my bipolar and unfortunately we divorced. after that i went back to my English ways as i felt it was all to much. OK so it has been around 5 years now i am stable with my bipolar and i keep having this yearning like something is calling me, everyday now i find myself studying more and more about Islam (properly this time) I truly feel that, that's who i am. The more i study i feel like when my friend told me to say the sentence it wasn't right. I want to go into this properly with full knowledge and be able to take my Shahada in a Masjid. I feel so disrespectful of how i have live my life. But no matter what i do i need to come home to Allah swt. I know this time id like to do it right by moving to a Muslim community so i have the support so i never let evil pull me away again. (When i tried to become Muslim previously i had very little knowledge).... Please can anyone help.. Can i pay for my sins or will i never be accepted again? Thank you for taking time to read this, And i appreciate and help or advice you can give. W'Salaam Annie |
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Posted By: NABA
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 1:32am
| Assalamalecum,u say that u returned to ur english way but if u hv not rejected Shahada, then there is room of forgiveness from Allah, bcoz Allah says in ch 4 v 48 that Allah if wants can forgive any sin but not the sin of shirk. |
Posted By: Abu Loren
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 3:37am
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Asalaamu Alaykum
You can turn this into a positive thing because Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala loves those who repent and comes back to Him.
As for what happened in the past, accept it in your mind that it was satan who turned away from the Way of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala. It could be as you say that you were not ready to be a Muslim.
I would advise you to take the Shahada again with conviction and learn the words of what it means. Then there are Islamic centres that will help you In Shaa Allah. But be warned that there are people out there who call themselves Muslims but offer no help. I am saying this as you are a white English person and the masjids are frequented by mainly non Muslim folks. Don't be disheartened if some try to be difficult with you.
Islam is the only religion acceptable to Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala and give yourself a chance of entering Jannah by doing deeds that Pleases Him and being a good human being.
Please use this forum to ask questions even if they seem silly to you. You have nothing to be ashamed about what you wrote at the end of the day we are all human beings and we do things that are wrong and bad things happen to us all but the main thing is to rely on Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala and rest assured miracles will happen and blessings will be showered upn you In Shaa Allah.
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Posted By: Annie86
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 4:29am
Asalaamu alaykum Thank you for your kind words and advice Brother. I have spent all night reading the Holy Qur'an (still alot more to go, Alhumdullilah) and I now know Allah swt is calling me. So Insha'Allah i have emailed my local Da'wah Centre, for help. Insha'Allah i will soon become a Muslim. |
Abu Loren wrote:Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 7:08am
Abu Loren perhaps you have misstated the above? |
Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 7:32am
| Annie welcome! I think it very important that you continue to take your medication, and seek the assistance of a good therapist who will assist you to stay on your medication and adjust your dosage as needed. Further, if not already done, the therapist can help you rebuild your relationship with your family. With respect to your religion it isn't necessary to take your shahaadah inside a mosque. You only need to start slowly learning and practicing your religion. We all fall very short of theological expectations and there is no shame, but only seeking forgiveness of our past indiscretions. Lastly, it is not necessary or advisable for you to change your name upon becoming a Muslim. It is also not mandatory that you wear a face veil (niqab). |
Posted By: islamispeace
Date Posted: 09 April 2014 at 7:23pm
As-salaam alaikum. You should not be worried about not being accepted by Allah (swt). As long as you are sincere, Allah will never turn you away. The Quran states: "Say: "O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah: for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. "Turn ye to our Lord (in repentance) and bow to His (Will), before the Penalty comes on you: after that ye shall not be helped." (Surah Az-Zumar, 39:53-54) ------------- Say: "Truly, my prayer and my service of sacrifice, my life and my death, are (all) for Allah, the Cherisher of the Worlds. (Surat al-Anaam: 162) |
Posted By: bayram
Date Posted: 17 April 2014 at 10:45am
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Heloo
l am new here Hey Annie think that all the sins in the world is a dirt on a sparrows food, And Allah's mercy is the ocean. If that sparrow puts its food in that ocean, do you think it will still be dirty or clean. Allah tell us to be hopeful many times in Kuran. İnşallah you will be happier day by day. |
Posted By: ll0OoO0ll
Date Posted: 26 April 2014 at 4:44pm
There is nothing to worry in your case. Allah is merciful and he forgives every sin except for shirk. All you need to do is to honestly repent and make the intention that you will try your best not to go back to the path of ignorance. If you unintentionally commit a sin 1000 times and you honestly repent a 1000 times, Inshallah Allah will forgive you a 1000 times. It's all about how truthfully honest you are with yourself and with your lord in your efforts to stay on the right path. No one is perfect and perhaps no one can complete the entire teaching of Islam 100% in his life. We are humans and we are bound to make mistakes. And that's why Allah says I am merciful. You ask for forgiveness and I will forgive you. I think what you need to do is go slow in your learning and practice process, and do NOT make it too hard on yourself. Stick with the basics and slowly move your way up in the coming years. Another thing that really helps is to stay in the company of good Muslims. Remember, when a non-Muslim converts to Islam, the Satan starts working on him 24/7 to push him back into ignorance. So no matter what happens, NEVER leave Islam. This journey could be easy, but at times your faith will be tested. Always remind yourself not to let Satan take over you and always seek help from Allah. The benefit of being in the company of good Muslims is that you keep getting reminders and you are confident to practice your faith since you form a synergy with other Muslims. |
Posted By: Shijabi
Date Posted: 28 April 2014 at 8:49am
Assalaam aleikum, Annie, I read your post and found I could identify with you. I also suffer from mental health problems (schizophrenia and borderline) and as a result am struggling with keeping up practising Islam. But I'm carrying on... Belief in the One God Allah helps me to persevere. I find myself wondering over and over again how Allah could forgive me as I sense my own sin a lot, but I tell myself He is the Most Merciful so hope in His mercy 
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Posted By: truthfull
Date Posted: 09 May 2014 at 7:25am
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Allah forgive all sins Except association
Just ask him for forgiveness O Allah forgive me Be sincere Go back to Allah Allah say in quran : Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." � there are amazing stuff in islam You can learn Signs of judgement day Minor and major �Quran miracles http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kmgY-2gLrk0 � hadith miracles Prophet said that earth doesn't ruin Prophet body Proved : http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FTwEkf_zOKM Muslim in death time Despite he injury but there is No expression of pain Miracle http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=l7Tk0wFYRig Death time http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hGcLcYX6OaM Above all : Name prophet Muhammad found in bible : http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hGcLcYX6OaM Jesus confirmed he is. Prophet Luke 13:31-35 Worldwide English (New Testament) (WE) 31�At that time some Pharisees came to Jesus. They said to him, `Go away from here. Herod wants to kill you Jesus peace be upon him replied But I must go on my way today, tomorrow, and the next day. A prophet of God cannot be killed outside of Jerusalem. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke 13:31-35 � bible say jesus is prophet : Matthew 21:11 The crowds answered, "This is Jesus, the prophet ... |