Sorry for coming on to your form, but my question is for the brothers. 

I have a question about women's dress.

 With the sisters,Islamic  womens dress is a very huge discussion topic. I myself am told a lot about the way i dress, if something is not loose enough, or what i am wearing is to reveling.

 So my question to you is, what would you like muslim women to wear? What do you think is approprite? What would you let your wife/daughter/sister go out in public in? Or do you completly disagree with having to wear hijab?

 Thank you, and salam alikum,

 Aisha

Wa Alaikum Salaam,

Let me say that I'm a so-called "Westerner" so whether my opinion on dress matters to you or not well that is up to you to accept. In my opinion I believe what a woman wears doesn't matter so long as the aparrel she wears does not damage her integrity. I believe that clothing reflects the social philosophy of society therefore when people dress provocatively its usely an expression of a liberal and "free-loving" society, not always but in the States that is usually the case. On Hijab or Niqab I believe whatever a woman wears is her choice I dont believe spirituality is what we wear but a behavior and its expressed through our observance of our faith. I believe women are beautiful and dont need clothes (of course I mean women dont need clothing as a form of expressing their faith of course) to express themselves or their faith but to have that reflect in their heart.

Sister BTW you dont need to apologize because you are free to venture here as we are free to venture on your forum.

So my question to you is, what would you like muslim women to wear? What do you think is approprite? What would you let your wife/daughter/sister go out in public in? Or do you completly disagree with having to wear hijab?

This question is unneccasary - it should not matter what the men want you to wear - it should matter of what Allah has stated.

To wear a mans clothing is haram - as women are not meant to wear trousers - this does not mean that trousers and a long top cannot be worn - but clothes should not be form fitting - therfore hijab i believe is an excellant method of covering yourself.

i do not wear a hijab myself nor do a refrain from wearing trousers - but i most certainly will not be asking for a mans opinion, when i am ready to wear the Hijab or to cover myself correctly according to Islam - i will follow the guide lines set by Allah and the prophet - using the prophets wives as an example.

Inshallah

 How do you use the prophets wifes as an explame if you don't wear Hijab?

 Also, you said "To wear a mans clothing is haram - as women are not meant to wear trousers " but then you said " do not wear a hijab myself nor do a refrain from wearing trousers " So you are saying you know you are wrong? I guess thats a start, admitting there is a probelm is a good start....

 You said also "This question is unneccasary - it should not matter what the men want you to wear..."

I agree It does not matter,if it matter I wouldnt wear hijab, I would wear mini skirts, and flont myself.

  I wanted there opoions, there imput, there  "two-cents". How offend do we ask the men? Maybe they have a very good view.

Muslim Friend wrote: To wear a mans clothing is haram - as women are not meant to wear trousers - this does not mean that trousers and a long top cannot be worn - but clothes should not be form fitting - therfore hijab i believe is an excellant method of covering yourself. i do not wear a hijab myself nor do a refrain from wearing trousers - but i most certainly will not be asking for a mans opinion, when i am ready to wear the Hijab or to cover myself correctly according to Islam - i will follow the guide lines set by Allah and the prophet - using the prophets wives as an example. Inshallah

Muslim Friend, you contradict yourself

aishag88 wrote:  No brother, I don't mean that...Please don't get mad at me

huh, which brother are you referring to? Israfil is the only brother here so I guess you mean him ?

Aisha, may i ask, do you wear just a head scarf or the full length hijab thingy to cover yourself - sorry but alot of peopl use different descriptions for them?

From the impression i've had in your last 2 posts on clothing - you do wear trousers and a headscarf but you mentioned in another post that you feel guilty when you wear tight fitting trousers. I'm now confused. Why do you wear tight trousers or short tops if you feel guilty?!

Muslim Friend wrote: I'm now confused. Why do you wear tight trousers or short tops if you feel guilty?!

Good question! Tight-fitting clothing can be more revealing than covering the hair, agree?

Thank you Deus,

Exactly my point  

If your clothes are loose and your hair is open, you will get less attention that covered hair and tight clothes. Tight clothes flaunt everything and atleast when hair is open, you can use it to hide something!!!

I know many girls who wear headscarfs and tight trousers, so tight infact, that bending over is a case of flashing to any passer by!!!

I on the other hand, as i stated or as many of you kindly pointed out contradicted myself(!!!) in this topic before, do not cover my hair but my clothes are loose fitted. if you are clear in you intentions to guys they are pretty much o.k with you. It is only when you allow them to flirt that they continue.

One point i have found is, that i would actually like to wear asian clothes to work, but i have a higher management position and find i don't get the same respect in asian clothes that i do in western clothes. Has antyone else had the same problem.

ican understand that in many western companies you'd have trouble commanding respect in asian clothes.the language of clothing is different because the culture is different..in some cultures you'd look positively regal in asian shalwar kameez.. but luckily its not against muslim codes of dress to wear a trouser suit if you are a woman. you can get suits with longer jackets and /or loose wide trousers.

Muslim Friend wrote: atleast when hair is open, you can use it to hide something!!!

That is if you have long hair  

Be covered or wearing loose clothing does not garantee less attention.

I believe if you look nice and respectful, modest whether in tightly dressed or loose clothing, you'll still get some kind of attention from a guy.

I want to stress one point being covered doesn't garantee that men will not look or think about certain things, one thing about the west where some women wear little clothing or bikinis at the beach/pool actually leaves nothing to the imagination, all is revealed, men get accustomed to this and lose interest. Being covered at least leaves something to the imagination. I am sorry to say this but its true.

Dear aisha88

Woman has to wear hijab. I agree with you, you are on the right way.

God bless you.

 Sorry, I forgot...

 I wear square hijab. I take the tail, tuck one in my shirt/abaya then pin the other tail to my shoulder...

aishag88 wrote: Sometimes i want to be more like disbelivers.

Why do you want to be like other people? Don't you just want to be you ?

aishag that surely is a terrible thing to write!

Why would you want to like the girl in public school who wear provocative clothing or the girl who wears tight fitting clothing to get attention or the girl who wears hardly any clothing to get all the attention? Listen I know Muslim women who dont wear hijab at the tmoment right now but are still strong in their faith. What is your problem? No offense I assume you're in High School right?

 I do wear hijab...My imam is greating better...everyone as there moments...Insh'allah i will never feel that way again

 I don't want to be live the dibelieves, I am proud to be muslim!

Israfil,

      I did think Aisha was a teenager when she first started this comment, and the fact that shes confirmed it means i was correct. I don't think she actually means she wants to be a kafir, but i think its the materialism and peer pressure that probably makes her want to "fit in"  as it were.

What she needs to understand is that this is a test of her faith.

Aisha, just be strong. Besides, you can dress well and still be covered up.