AsalaamAlaikum all, I just wanted to start a new topic on how we can raise the next generation of boys to be better husbands. There are alot of complaints about how women are treated, however I think one thing we can do is train our boys to be gentlemen which is becoming a lost art. Some ideas I have are-
1. Do not spoil them to the point of making them little kings. Treat them the same as your daughters and never favor them or praise them for being boys.
2. Teach them to be loving compassionate and sensitive. Show them lots of tender love and show them how to be gentle. Encourage thier fathers to talk to them softly and hug them alot. Have thier dads talk to them about how to treat a lady, when they are little this should be thier mommy, sisters, aunties, grandma, neighbors ect.
3. If they are older teach them to help care for younger siblings, help to feed them, get them dressed, read them stories ect. I have my six year old son read to my 3 year old daughter. I encourage him to teach her new things. I have him help her get dressed and put on her shoes.
4. Give them chores, and don't go easier on them than you would on a girl. My son is six and cleans his room, makes his bed and cleans up his own toys. He helps my husband in the yard. When he is older I will teach him how to fold laundry and help in the kitchen and even cook.
Anyway, gotta go. I hope you all have more ideas. Peace
------------- You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.
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