Salaam how's it going? Hope you're all fine.

I'm hoping you guys can help me out a bit! I'm 18 and with all my heart I want to get married......but I don't know how to tell my parents and I'm scared that they won't accept! They might say that I'm too young and that I should finish my education. But inshaAllah I'll still complete my education even when I am married. Any suggestions???

Salam, sister!

I suggest that you talk to your parents.  You are afraid that they might not give you the answer that you want to hear.  But think, they have been on this Earth longer than you, they have more experience, and they really know better.  Talk to them! 

I know how you feel:  you're young, you want excitement in your life, so you think that getting married will give you that excitement and adventure in your life.  But remember, marriage is for life!  Really, you don't want to make a foolish decision here - you don't want to get stuck with a person that later on you don't want to be with.     And it does happen.  It is very easy to make a decision to get married, but it is very hard to get out of the problems about marriage.  If they say wait a little and study more, there's a reason for that.  Your parents will have a good judgement, I'm sure.  You don't want to end up unhappy.  So, please, don't be afraid.  Talk to your parents. Even if they don't say, what you want to hear, they will probably be right.  And you will only find this out with time.

(Praise to Allah!)

Mimi, I think Alaa_k's advice is very good. Please try not to rush into things too quickly - when you are 25 you will be a different person compared with you at the age of 18, and by the time you are 35 you will be completely different. Imagine how you will feel at 35 if you make the wrong decision at 18!

I'm not saying you will make the wrong decision ( i hope you don't!) but I'm just agreeing that you need to be very careful.

Why do you need to marry so suddenly - have you met someone?

Kim...

Get married sis. Prophet's (peace be upon him) advice is to get married early.

Please read marraige section  http://www.shariahway.com - www.shariahway.com  

You do istihara and Inshallah Allah will help you with the right decision.

In kafir societies even at 40  they arent mature for marriage.

And they have haram relationships well before 18.  

Fatima sis excellent advice. !8 is old. Boys and girls have needs and need purify minds and body. marraige is halal way to do that. The sooner the better.

You see in Muslim countries 15 yr old girls with children. MasshaAllah very mature mind. But in Kafir countries you see tehir women 40 years behaving like 2 years olds. Drunk and takeing their cloths of in public all sorts. & 70 year old women start singing, dancing and pulling up their skirts in busses.

So no wonder they will advice marry late (what when person is in teh grave will they be mature for marrraige? )

Assalaamoaalaikum

I agree that in Muslim countries and in the past brothers would marry in their late teens and sisters in mid or early teens and their marriages were more successful.

Inshallah if you plan on taking the halal step Allah will surely help you with your decision on marrying early. May other young brothers and sisters follow your footsteps.

Bismillah,

I agree with ak_m's advice to you.  Thinking important things through is vital to making good decisions for your life.  And hopefully your parents are receptive to your needs and ideas.

But don't jump into marriage because although marriage is the best way to complete our religion, many people, even in Muslim countries, marry early and get divorced quickly. 

My dear Arabic Muslim niece who lives in Jordan didn't listen to advice not to marry a man because her emotions of love for him overtook her, and her desire to start her life.  He is in prison, and she is at home again with a baby.  And they are very poor, May Allah, SWT, provide for them.

So you want to let your parents help you think clearly if they will.  And you can talk to us about the details, dear sister.

Another thing is if you even start out and end up having kid(s) early you get assisstance from the government in the UK.

1. Marriage is for the sake of Allah. Its purposes are to

establish a Muslim family, have offspring, transmit

the message of Allah, and through them, carry on

the human race. Allah, the Almighty, has said:

Say: �Allah did choose Adam and Noah, the fam-ily

of Abraham, and the family of �Imran above all

people, offspring, one of the other. [Qur�an 3:34]

2. Marriage serves to protect one�s modesty and dignity,

and one�s fear of the Lord. The Prophet of Allah (s)

said:

Three [people] are entitled to Allah�s help. The

fighter (mujahid) in the cause of Allah, the trustee,

and the person who marries for protection (of his or

her modesty). [Tirmidhi]

Whoever marries, has completed half of his religion,

and the other half is fear of Allah. [Tabrani]

3. The choice of a lifetime partner, a wife or a husband,

demands one�s best effort. The Messenger of Allah

(s) said:

�Choose[the best] for your generation because [the

failure of a single] generation can lead to a crisis.�

[Ibn Majah]

4. The qualities of a good wife are good behavior and

religious commitment, not wealth and beauty. The

Messenger of Allah (s), said:

Do not marry women because of their beauty; their

beauty may spoil them. Do not marry them because

of their money; their money may oppress them. But

marry them because of their piety (din). And a slave

girl, deaf, but pious is better. [Ibn Majah]

If a man marries a woman because of her (worldly)

status, Allah will reward him only with degradation;

and if a man marries her because of her wealth, this

will bring him only poverty; and if a man marries

because of her family, Allah will reward him only by

humiliation; but if a man marries for the sake of Al-lah,

Allah will bless him with her and bless her with

him. [Tabrani]

MAke dua to allah to get u a spouse soon!

its better to get married early....

otherwise u'll lose ur beauty & desires!

bismail-lah

Alhamderillahie-rubbul aalymeen since that last time i posted Posted: ***01 March 2006 at 3:03am | IP Logged** thats when i was looking for marriage hehe and striving to do it in halal and i had to be very patient and very choosey on the deen part but i couldnt find any 1 but subhanallah the family of my spouse found me, and all praises to allah, that now he has blessed me with a spouse alhamderillah    she is very rightious may allah protect her and preserve her, and may allah the most high bless all of my brothers and sisters in islam in there marriage and in every thing else on wat is halal and may allah give you wats best for you all.  (allahumma ameen)

amat wrote: MAke dua to allah to get u a spouse soon! its better to get married early.... otherwise u'll lose ur beauty & desires!

Bismillah,

This is an uninformed, silly comment.

Salaamu Alaykum

no.shirk wrote: bismail-lah Alhamderillahie-rubbul aalymeen since that last time i posted Posted: ***01 March 2006 at 3:03am | IP Logged** thats when i was looking for marriage hehe and striving to do it in halal and i had to be very patient and very choosey on the deen part but i couldnt find any 1 but subhanallah the family of my spouse found me, and all praises to allah, that now he has blessed me with a spouse alhamderillah    she is very rightious may allah protect her and preserve her, and may allah the most high bless all of my brothers and sisters in islam in there marriage and in every thing else on wat is halal and may allah give you wats best for you all.  (allahumma ameen)

Bismillah,

Mabrook!  Congratulations!