As-salaam-alaykum,

Please does anyone have any advice on how to STOP breastfeeding. My daughter is coming up to 2 years old and she loves to still feed. If I tell her that the milk is finished she cries and cries. She will not take a bottle and I just don't know what to do. Is it correct that under islamic tradition, I have to stop when she is 2 years or can I feed a bit longer? Does anyone have any good advice?

Thank-you

Assalamu alaikum,

Put soy souce or any other souce that look like blood around the nipples and add some salt to make even saltier or even bitter.

That what my wife did to our kids, alhamdulillah it worked.

I wouldn't do what semar did

It is fine if you go a bit longer but wean your daughter off at the same time, limit her feeding and widen the time gaps. (This will lessen your production of milk) If your daughter will not take the bottle, then get one of those toddler cups, with sprout and two handles and also a non spilage one. Give her drinks that way - water, juice and milk. Also a good tip is to have it on a coffee table where she can reach and let her take it when she feels like it.

My cousin when she was a baby never took to the bottle, we tried but she just never wanted it, so she went straight to the cup and at night it was left in her bed close to her reach, so when she woke up thirsty she could just grab the cup and drink and not disturb her mum , If you have a non spilage cup, which you can get, works better at night.

I don't think its all that necessary to have a bottle when you can go to the cup, normally by the age of 2 they can hold a cup (much better with two handles) as they can hold the bottles by themselves already  

But it worked very well Angel, just one time my kids gived up. Now they are 7 and 9. When we told them how we did that recently, they said we are so funny and smart guy and they laugh.

semar wrote: But it worked very well Angel, just one time my kids gived up. Now they are 7 and 9. When we told them how we did that recently, they said we are so funny and smart guy and they laugh.

I know, probably one day i will try, who knows

Bismillah,

The La Leche League has extensive information on this topic.  To your question if it is allowed to breastfeed the baby longer than two years in Islaam:  Of course it is.

Assalamu alaikum, Sister Kane,

Whichever method you use to wean your daughter, keep in mind that a lot of what she craves from the breastfeeding is the closeness she experiences with you.  Try to increase these nice moments of closeness with her doing other activities such as reading together, colouring, playing and other activities that can be done with her cuddled on your lap.  By doing so she is less likely to miss that "me and mom" time together that the breastfeeding gave her.

Peace, ummziba.

Bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

there is difference of opinion among scholars to the length of breastfeeding, but in hanafi madhab from Ayaat iv copied down and many other evidences, limit for a baby boy is two years while for baby girl its two n half

�And the mothers are to suckle their infants for two years, for those who wish to complete the suckling�(Surah Baqarah 2:233)

�We have enjoined upon the human being to treat his parents kindly. His mother bore him with weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years.� (Surah Luqman 31:14)

And We have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with trouble did his mother bear him and with trouble did she bring him forth; and the bearing of him and the weaning of him was thirty months; until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says: My Lord! grant me that I may give thanks for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do good which pleases Thee and do good to me in respect of my offspring; surely I turn to Thee, and surely I am of those who submit.
(46:15)

wassalam

Kane,

I have the same problem. My son drives me crazy. He only wants breast milk and enjoys breastfeeding. He turned 2 two days ago. I have 6 other children and had the same problem. The only way to stop is just to STOP. Be patient and may god help you.

                                            Umm saleh

As-salaam Alaykum wa rahmatAllah wa baraktahu

I would like to thank sister Fatima as I was not aware of surah 46:15 and some sisters have been telling me that I MUST stop at 2 years. So now I can inform them about that.

Thankyou for your suggestion Semar, but I think I'll steer clear of that one.

Thankyou to the rest of you too. Now that I know about surah 46:15 I am not going to panic just yet. I shall try to get her to cut down slowly and insha-Allah she will stop.

But who knows,I may be back in 6 months time asking for more advice if she hasn't stopped by then!!!

As-salaam alaykum

'tis me again!

Now I am a little confused. I did look in my Qu'ran at 46:15 which has no footnotes and happy because of the weaning of 30 months.

But now I have checked my other qu'ran which has footnotes and It says the 30 months includes 6 months when the pregnancy is viable, so therefore the weaning is 2 yrs and not more.

Bismillah irrahman irrahim

Assalamu alaikum

no worries sis all of us go through same sort of things, one thing we need to understand is all of us can't just look at Holy Quran and Ahadith and know the ruligs from there, basically all schools of thought have rulings on ways of interpertation which they have taken from Holy Quran and Ahadith, now they use those rulings to derive a law from Ayaat and Ahadith, now what i wrote was from hanafi rulings and being honest im not sure how the law is being derived, they must have used ahadith and most of time hanafi rulings go for interpertation of Ayesha (ra) as Imam hanifa was student of student of Ayesha (ra) but Allah swt knows best

wassalam

As Salamu Alaikum

Insha Allah I am going to quote from the Tafsir of ibn Kathir to shed some light on this.

And (the period of) his gestation and weaning is thirty months,

`Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, used this Ayah along with the following two Ayat to prove that the minimum period of pregnancy (gestation) is six months:

(And his weaning is in two years.) (31:14) and

(The mothers suckle their children two complete years -- for those who desire to complete the term of suckling. ) (2:233)

 This is a strong and valid conclusion, and it was approved by `Uthman and a number of the Companions. Muhammad bin Ishaq bin Yasar narrated from Ba`jah bin `Abdullah Al-Juhani that a man from his tribe (Juhaynah) married a woman from Juhaynah. She delivered a baby after six months. So her husband went to `Uthman, may Allah be pleased with him, and told him about that. Thus, `Uthman summoned her. When she was getting dressed, her sister started crying. She asked her: "Why do you cry By Allah, no one has ever approached me (for sexual relations) of Allah's creation except him (my husband). So let Allah decree (for me) as He wills.'' When she was brought before `Uthman, he commanded that she be stoned to death (for adultery). `Ali heard of this, came to `Uthman, and said: "What are you doing'' He (`Uthman) said: "She delivered after six months! Can this ever happen'' `Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "Don't you read the Qur'an'' He said: "Yes, of course!'' He (`Ali) then said: `Haven't you heard Allah's saying,

(and his gestation and weaning is thirty months),

( two complete years) (2:233) (Subtracting the two numbers) we are only left with six months.'' `Uthman, may Allah be pleased with him, said: "By Allah, I did not see that! Bring the woman back.'' But they found that she had already been killed. Ba`jah continued: "By Allah, no two crows and no two eggs are more similar than that child turned out to be to his father! When his father saw that he said, `By Allah! This is my son without any doubt.' Later on, Allah afflicted him with a skin abscess in his face (because of his false accusation to his wife). It kept eating him up until he died.'' Ibn Abi Hatim related from his father that Farwah bin Abi Al-Maghra' told them that `Ali bin Mushir narrated to them from Dawud bin Abi Hind, who narrated from `Ikrimah that Ibn `Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, "When a woman delivers after nine months, the baby will only need twenty-one months of suckling. When she delivers after seven months, the baby will need twenty-three months of suckling. When she delivers after six months, the baby will need two full years of suckling.

This is another explanation. Allah knows best.

Wa Alaikum Salam

As Salamu Alaikum

Insha Allah I am going to quote from the Tafsir of ibn Kathir to shed some light on this......................

AssalaamuAlaikum, Jazakallahukhair for this tafsir, it was useful....

Salaam Alaikum,

Yes I still Breastfeeding but trying to cut down slowly inshaAllah.

while we are still on this subject would like to know from you sisters who have breastfed for this long, Is it normal to still NOT have had a period?

Bismillah,

Yes.  And I mention again that La Leche league has this information on its website in detail.