Salams. please tell me agar husband bilawaja maray to kya krna chahye? we both are highly educated. we have one small child. we are married more than 3 years. we both are working. problem is my husband 1 year back he started his own business. coz of this to run basic family need i am doing job and I drop my child to day care.
my husband is also cut off from his family due to so many issues. he used to support them before but now he can't that is why there is no normal connection between him and his family.
second he just started his business and in struggling phase. he is working hard for us but of course i have to work to run the house.
due to his relation with his family he is away from his mother, he is really upset from inside but he doesn't show. second due to unfortunately not getting success in business he is frustrated.
unnecessary suddenly he becomes angry on me. my problem is I am also working, and have to manage home and look after my small child also. some times i am also stressed. and i want him to help me on weekends specially. but he rarely did. and if i say anything fight starts. and I am also stressed unnecessary his anger I cant tolerate and I shout. meray shouting krnay se un ko bht nafrat ha. ma kch days tk theak rhti hun but un ka bilawaja small matters pe tokna, bolna baby ki choti se cheezon pe bilawaja ghussa hona i can't bear. and is ghusay ma wo mjy 2 dafa maar b chukay hain. phli dafa maar k kafi dino baad unhay afsos b hua but abhi unho ne dobara mara, un ko agay se koi jawab do he hates it. wo bs chahtay hain whatever he says i should obey him. I am also a human being. we are living abroad. meray parents nahi hain and I can't share my personal matters with my sisters and brothers. hum ma ek dafa separation ki b baat hui thi he will never give my child to me. mjhy lgta ha wo apni family ki frustration b mjh pe utartay hain. coz un se koi baat b nahi krta.
mjhy afsos hota ha k itni educated honay k bawajood independent ho kr bhi ma husband se maar khati hun. what should I do? apnay paisay kama kr b mere apni izzat nahi ha. now a days we are not talking with each other. only for my child I am living. smjh nahi ata itni lambi zindagi ha kaisay chalaga sb. after every one or two months it happens. hamari fight hoti ha and baat cheet band. physical relation to bht door ki baat ha. how i can stop my husband k mjy na maray. abhi to meray betay ko smjh nahi ata k kya hua he just cry bara hokr dekhayga apni maa ko maar khatay huway i can't even imagine.
i dont know i am tolerating all these ma doosro ko bht speech deti thi in situation ma k chor do bla bla. but its v difficult. ma daily is admi ko roti bana k deti hun khana banati hun but why i am doing. i don't know. i am not dependent on him. but bachay ko maa baap dono chahye hotay hain.
plz help me tell me duas. and how can I save my marriage life. mere saas bht achi hain I can tell her. but ksi b 3rd person ko batanay ka matlab end of this relation. un ka ghusa bht ha. un k bhai behan ne chor dya ha, wo apnay betay ko panay k lye meray sath kch b krsktay hain. he said he is also tolerating me coz of his son.
plz remember me in prayers.
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