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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
I need advice on something that's been on my mind. Recently I've had an attraction to one guy, he was really nice to me and funny. A few months ago he went through something in his private life and our communication has been strained and it left me confused as to whether I have done something wrong, he really only types in one-word sentences, reads my messages, and doesn't reply even when I try to check up on him and ask if he's okay. Sometimes he even apologized and said he never meant to do it on purpose. I have prayed Istikhara because I needed guidance towards whether if he is someone I should continue to have in my life and will eventually work out or move on. I've gotten specific signs on Instagram about our separation and how he wants to come back in my life and how he regrets leaving so suddenly. Some of these signs even included he had sexual fantasies for me, could these signs be from the Istikhara or just coincidence or trickery from shaytaan. I even clicked "not interested" on those posts since they take up my Instagram page but they still come back. One of my friends who partake in Quran class or Dugsi said that these specific signs could be from Allah (swt) since they're clear and show something very specific both to my experiences and in general.
I have the intention of keeping this relationship halal even if it means staying as just friends but I would really like this to work out since I think that he is a really nice person and we share many common interests. I don't think he has many people he's friends with and he even told me this which is why I want to be in his life so he won't feel almost alone. During a rough patch in his life, I used to pray for him every day. Is there anything else I could do that can help guide me to a decision?
Jazakallahu Dhamir Khitab.
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