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Posted By: rizwan
Subject: need urgent help
Date Posted: 07 July 2006 at 11:09pm
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as salaam alai kum i need advice from u on this issue. one of my cousin is involved in sexual intercourse since one and half year with his girl friend. both r muslim.i adviced him many times tht it is a big sin be away from it.he did listen to me and did tauba but again he did the same sin after doing tauba. he has repeated this innumerable times.i even told him to marry but he is doing his degree so he cant do marriage. now he told me tht he is really ashamed of this things and want forgiveness from ALLAH. he asked me whether ALLAH will forgive him if he repent and cry for his mistakes and do not repeat them? reply me by quoting sunnats,Quranic verses. wil forgiveness thr for these kind of people? please reply me asap. salaam
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Posted By: Muhammad77
Date Posted: 08 July 2006 at 12:04am
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Repentance
The following article is taken from a new Islaamic Magazine called "Ad-da'wah ilallaah: The Call to Allaah", Volume 1 Issue 1. REPENTANCE The word Tawbah (Repentance) in Arabic literally means 'to return'. In an Islamic context, it refers to the act of leaving what Allaah has prohibited and returning to what He has commanded. The subject of repentance is one which concerns all people who believe in God, and is vital one for the Muslims to understand because our salvation in the hereafter is dependent on our repentance to Allaah, as is shown by Allaah's order: "AND TURN YOU ALL TOGETHER IN REPENTANCE TO ALLAAH O BELIEVERS, THAT YOU MAY BE SUCCESSFUL" [An-Noor (24):31] In Soorah al-Baqarah, Allaah tells us: "SURELY ALLAAH LOVES THOSE WHO TURN UNTO HIM IN REPENTANCE AND LOVES THOSE WHO PURIFY THEMSELVES." [2:222] This shows how pleasing our repenting is to Allaah. Also, the Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam gave us an example of just how pleasing to Allaah our repenting is an authentic hadeeth in which he,Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Allaah is more delighted with the repentance of His servant than one of you would be, who suddenly finds his camel laden with supplies after losing it in a barren land" Try to imagine your joy if you were to suddenly retrieve everything you ever possessed after losing all hope of recovering what you had lost. Then think that Allaah's delight is even greater than this when His slave repents to Him. So much so, that if man stopped repenting to Allaah, He would replace us with another creation that would turn to Him for forgiveness. The Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "If you did not commit sins, Allaah would sweep you out of existence and replace you by another people who would commit sins, ask for Allaah's forgiveness and He would forgive them." The problem with many of us today, is that we don't fear Allaah, which means that we don't think twice about disobeying Him and therefore falling into sin, which we give no real tought to. So perhaps we should think about the statement which Ibn Mas'ood radi Allaahu 'anhu, made: "A believer sees his sins as if he were sitting under a mountain which he is affraid may fall on him, whereas the wicked person considers his sins as flies passing over his nose and he just drives them away like this (and he moved his hand over his nose in illustration)." NEVER DESPAIR Someone might say, 'I want to repent but my sins are too many.' But Allaah says: "SAY: O MY SLAVES WHO HAVE TRANSGRESSED AGAINST THEMSELVES! DESPAIR NOT FOR THE MERCY OF ALLAAH, VERILY ALLAAH FORGIVES ALL SINS. TRULY HE IS OFT FORGIVING, MOST MERCIFUL." [Az-Zumar (39):53] Therefore, we should never lose hope or stop asking for Allaah's forgiveness. Its importance is shown to us in a hadeeth in which the Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "O people! Turn to Allaah in repentance and seek His forgiveness, for surely I make repentance a hundred times every day." Repentance is such a great act of worship that doing it can totally erase our sins altoghether, as the Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "One who repents from sin is like one without sin." ONLY ALLAAH CAN FORGIVE SINS Forgiveness for our sins is not something that comes automatically, it is something that must be sought sincerely and with consciousness. Also we should remember that it is only through Allaah's Mercy that anyone will ever enter Paradise. The Prophet, Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam advised: "Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately, and rejoice, for no one's good deeds will put him in Paradise." The Companions asked, "Not even you O Messenger of Allaah?" He replied. "Not even me unless Allaah bestows His pardon and mercy on me." Therefore in Islaam, salvation rests on faith (which includes), good actions and hope in Allaah's mercy, all combined in truly unique manner which is not found in any other religion or system. Furthermore, it is only Allaah who can forgive our sins and He is not in need of any intercessor. The proof for this is in a du'aa (supplication) which the Prophet Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam taught his closest Companion Abu Bakr: "O Allaah, truly I have wronged myself and none can forgive sins except you." Therefore it is a complete waste of time asking forgiveness from the people such as "saints", pious people or even the Prophet Sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. Allaah say in reply to people who do such things: "VERILY, THOSE YOU CALL UPON BESIDES ALLAAH, ARE ONLY SLAVES LIKE YOURSELVES." [a;-A'raaf (7):194] It is important that we never despair of Allaah's Mercy - no sin is too great to repent for... or too little for that matter. As one of the salaf (Pious predecessors) said: "Do not look at the insignifance of your sins, but consider the greatness of The One you are disobeying."
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Posted By: Suleyman
Date Posted: 08 July 2006 at 12:29am
| HE CAN NOT NOT BE FORGIVEN UNLESS HE NOT MARRIED WITH THIS GIRL,LET HIM DO THE OBLIGATION(MARRIAGE) THEN WANT FROM HIM TO REPENT!!!! |
Posted By: Muhammad77
Date Posted: 08 July 2006 at 2:23am
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Suleyman wrote:Posted By: amah
Date Posted: 08 July 2006 at 2:42am
Whats the daleel?  ------------- Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45) |
Posted By: Suleyman
Date Posted: 08 July 2006 at 7:14am
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As Salamu Alaykum Sister Amah, The words belongs to me are all wrong being said under the effect of my anger when i heard the issue,i apologize for the wrong information,you know as a sister the best thing for this sister is being married with him that all scholars support this decision as a solution without the sanctions must include on them...no need to make comments on the issue here are the ayats so clear,the sanctions on the issue are a another subject he may search more deeply outside of the board..of course he has right to repent as said below... 024.001
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Posted By: rizwan
Date Posted: 09 July 2006 at 5:30am
| well u poeple say that thr is forgiveness for this kind of sin???? |
Posted By: Suleyman
Date Posted: 09 July 2006 at 5:41am
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Ayats and the ijmaa of the scholars says yes,if you repent and Allah accepts...forget his sins for a minute and answer these questions please,what will be the situation of the sister he has acted adultery with?,can you imagine how the society will judge her at her end?,has he got any plans for marrying with her?...do you mind on these issues?... |
Posted By: amah
Date Posted: 09 July 2006 at 6:06am
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Brother Rizwan, Please read this: http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=27113&dgn=4 - http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=27113&dgn=4 Wassalaam.------------- Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45) |
Posted By: Muhammad77
Date Posted: 09 July 2006 at 6:20am
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Dear Brother Rizwan, As-salaamu alaykum If you repent sincerely, then insha'Allah, the repentance will make up for the punishment. But in a sincere repentance, you have to be honest from the depth of your heart to have regretted what you have done, and you should pledge to Allah never to do it again. Please refer to the following verses from the Qur'an: Surah az-Zumar (39) verse 53, and Surah Taha (20) verse 82 and reflect on them. Also, make sure to always abide by the rules of Islamic Law; always remember Allah and ask for forgiveness; give charity to the poor as much as you can; and do good deeds whever you can. Allah has promised to forgive the sins of His servants, and He never breaks His promises. Thank you for asking and Allah knows best
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Posted By: rizwan
Date Posted: 10 July 2006 at 9:49am
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thank u so much brothers and sisters
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Posted By: Muhammad77
Date Posted: 10 July 2006 at 10:25am
Brother Rizwan, if you are still in need of more help or information, don't hesitate to contact us. Do keep in touch. May Allah guide us all to the straight path! Aameen! |
Posted By: Nafiu
Date Posted: 12 July 2006 at 10:48am
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Bro Rizwan, this is a Fatwa Below from late Shayk Muhammad ibn Uthaymeen one of the Best of this Century. Assalama ALaikum http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=69842&dgn=4 - http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=brows e&QR=69842&dgn=4 Question : A young man is saying that he committed some sins and repented to Allaah, but there is a sin for which his conscience is still troubling him, which is that he committed zina with a virgin. Now he is asking what he should do. He cannot marry her. This matter is causing him psychological pain and a hard life. What do you think?.
Praise be to Allaah. What we think is that if a person repents from any sin, Allaah accepts his repentance, because Allaah has mentioned the major sins (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah,”– this is shirk – “ nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause,” – this is murder – “nor commit illegal sexual intercourse” – this is immorality, transgression against Allaah, against other people and against their honour. Then Allaah says: –– and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. 69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; 70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Furqaan 25:68-70] A person must repent sincerely, fulfilling all the five well known conditions of repentance, which are regret, giving up the sin, resolving never to go back to it in the future, sincerity, which is the basic requirement, and repenting before the time for repentance is over. If these five conditions are met then this is sincere repentance, by means of which Allaah erases all sins that came before, even zina. With regard to the woman with whom you committed zina, if she did that willingly, then she will be questioned about that herself. If she was forced, then the one who forced her has to repent to Allaah from that. If he is able to ask her forgiveness, then let him do so, otherwise let him pray a great deal for forgiveness for her, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. With regard to the loss of her virginity as the result of this zina, she is going to be faced with a serious problem, because if someone proposes marriage to her on the basis that she is a virgin, he will find out on the wedding night that she is not. If she tells people that she has lost her virginity, then tongues will wag and she will bring shame upon her family. If she keeps quiet about it, then she will be deceiving her future husband. But I hope that this young woman’s repentance will be sincere; if it is sincere then Allaah will give her a way out. With regard to him saying in the question that he cannot marry her, I do not know why. If they have both repented and he can marry her, that is good. If that is not possible, then Allaah will give her a way out so long as her repentance is sincere, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty)” [al-Talaaq 65:2] This is general in meaning. And Allaah also says (interpretation of the meaning): “And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do” [al-Shoora 42:25] Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen from Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh, 3/335-336. (www.islam-qa.com) |
Posted By: mujahi24550
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 6:07am
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As Salaamu Alaikum my beloved ummat of Muslima's and Mu'min. May Allah continue His Mercy and guidance on us, and peace on nabi Muhammad Rasullah S.W.A In the Forty Hadith Rasullah states that if you do a thing and no one sees it but you and He (Allah) A veil has been put between you and those who know not and forgiveness maybe possible, but if you go out and tell others of your deed, then you have lifted this veil and accountability will be required Insha Allah. I see that Allah knows us so well, that His Mercy extents over His wrath was with His creation in mind. The 5 daily prayers and reading of Quran not only help to remove sins but will give strength in preventing them as well. I am 50 yrs old and this deen is but a trial on those who believe in what Allah and His Rasul Muhammad S.W.A has instructed this ummat of Believers to follow. We have laws to punish the sinful but which of us would want the task to carring the charge out, who would want to be verabley admonished about Allah's Wrath. The Advice first given touched my heart and the brother and sister must be incouraged to seek Allah's attention with repentance as many time as they seek to return to Allah's Mercy and Rasullah Nabi Muhammad S.W.A. advice. We all need each other to understand our mission in this life and help us get through the difficult times. My advice, continue making tauba and let not day go by without reading Al kitabullah. May Allah Supbanna Wat'a Ala give us strength over our nafs and forgive our short comings until the sin is wiped out as we struggle to clean ourselvs up. Ameen. Wa Alaikum As Salaam ------------- let constant prayer be your first act of worship, and struggle to keep it at all times be your second. |
Posted By: Shery
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 6:30am
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He must marry her If he marry her might allah bless his life and ( yebarak to him ) in his life and work or study Anyhow ... ( fornication ) become the normal thing in islamic world and the one who careless about god ... I dont categorize him as a muslim and ( el zany we el zaneya ) no mercy for them unless they repent And your cousin likes the ( haram ) instead of ( halal ) and Most of the man like even if they are married to cheat ... This is what we call ( self control ) and fear of god Muslim think they will go to heaven just for being ( MUSLIM ) NO A BIG PORTION FROM MUSLIMS WILL BE IN THE DEEPEST HELL WITH THE HYPOCRITES ... Inshallah I hope That allah enlight all muslims hearts But unfortunately ... I think your cousin wont listen to you Cuz he probably will be stubborn and think that as long as he is a man there s no problem .... but he dont know what is waiting for him . No one can fool god ! ------------- �� ���� ����� ����� �� ���� ����� ��������� ����� �� ����� ������� �� ����� ��� ���� �� ����� ��� ����� ������� ����� ��� ������ ����� �� ���� ������� ����� ������ � ���� ������� ���� |
Posted By: Shery
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 6:35am
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http://63.175.194.25/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&QR=69842&dgn=4 - Question : A young man is saying that he committed some sins and repented to Allaah, but there is a sin for which his conscience is still troubling him, which is that he committed zina with a virgin. Now he is asking what he should do. He cannot marry her. This matter is causing him psychological pain and a hard life. What do you think?.
Praise be to Allaah. What we think is that if a person repents from any sin, Allaah accepts his repentance, because Allaah has mentioned the major sins (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah,”– this is shirk – “ nor kill such person as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause,” – this is murder – “nor commit illegal sexual intercourse” – this is immorality, transgression against Allaah, against other people and against their honour. Then Allaah says: –– and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. 69. The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; 70. Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Furqaan 25:68-70] A person must repent sincerely, fulfilling all the five well known conditions of repentance, which are regret, giving up the sin, resolving never to go back to it in the future, sincerity, which is the basic requirement, and repenting before the time for repentance is over. If these five conditions are met then this is sincere repentance, by means of which Allaah erases all sins that came before, even zina. With regard to the woman with whom you committed zina, if she did that willingly, then she will be questioned about that herself. If she was forced, then the one who forced her has to repent to Allaah from that. If he is able to ask her forgiveness, then let him do so, otherwise let him pray a great deal for forgiveness for her, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. With regard to the loss of her virginity as the result of this zina, she is going to be faced with a serious problem, because if someone proposes marriage to her on the basis that she is a virgin, he will find out on the wedding night that she is not. If she tells people that she has lost her virginity, then tongues will wag and she will bring shame upon her family. If she keeps quiet about it, then she will be deceiving her future husband. But I hope that this young woman’s repentance will be sincere; if it is sincere then Allaah will give her a way out. With regard to him saying in the question that he cannot marry her, I do not know why. If they have both repented and he can marry her, that is good. If that is not possible, then Allaah will give her a way out so long as her repentance is sincere, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty)” [al-Talaaq 65:2] This is general in meaning. And Allaah also says (interpretation of the meaning): “And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do” [al-Shoora 42:25] Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen from Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh, 3/335-336. (www.islam-qa.com) [/QUOTE]
NO I TOTALY DISAGREE WITH THIS WEAK ISLAMIC EXCUSES FOR A MAN didnt you know that ( hakouk el 3abad) i hope some1 translate this the rights of people GOD might repent him in HIS behalf BUT IN HUMAN BEHALF NO NO NO How can he do that to a muslima and he get away with it ? how do you think that this is just about repentance ! Allah help me from those muslims who say any fatwa Dont be like that .... cuz ALLAH DONT HELP ISLAM FOR THIS KIND OF FATWA While prophet mohamed said : ������ ������� ���� �� ������ ���� ��� ������ ���� Well for this guy I tell you Keep blaming yourself till death and after death you will face this girl if she didnt forgive you ... you will get your punishment .Inshallah and God knows the best . Thank you . ------------- �� ���� ����� ����� �� ���� ����� ��������� ����� �� ����� ������� �� ����� ��� ���� �� ����� ��� ����� ������� ����� ��� ������ ����� �� ���� ������� ����� ������ � ���� ������� ���� |
Posted By: Shery
Date Posted: 15 November 2006 at 7:00am
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I forget to say something .... �� ���� ���� ��� �� ��� ���� I hope something can translate that Whom fornicate will be fornicated in his home ( sister , wife , mother or daughter ) God is fair . ------------- �� ���� ����� ����� �� ���� ����� ��������� ����� �� ����� ������� �� ����� ��� ���� �� ����� ��� ����� ������� ����� ��� ������ ����� �� ���� ������� ����� ������ � ���� ������� ���� |