Why Is Marriage Half Of Your Faith?

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Foreword:

             This is a compilation of knowledge and advice given by various great scholars and teachers, including one of the top students of Allameh Tabat Taba'ee (the author of ''Al-Mizan'')   on the subject of marriage. These invaluable suggestions and recommendations were noted by my former roommate, a current Talabeh (religious student) named Yousef Toureh, from Turkey. He is amongst the best foreign Talabehs in Qom today.  This priceless information has been compiled over the course of over ten years. InshaAllah we can implement this knowledge and in turn properly build our Islamic communities.

Intro:

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             The explanation for what is meant by marriage is half your faith is that anyone who gets married and can overcome the trials and tribulations of marriage in an Islamic manner has then and only then accomplished reaching half of their faith. This has much to do with the fact that through marriage our own self-image of what we are, or at least what we think we are is constantly being tested. This is one of the ultimate trials Allah has set before us. For example someone may think that patience is an attribute of their character, but once they get married they may encounter situations with their spouse and family, that may cause them to realize perhaps they are not as patient as they envisioned that they were. These ordeals that you will undergo will help you to get to know yourself and your spouse better and as a result this builds your faith. In the Quran it states that Allah test us only within the capacity of our hearts, meaning he does not give us any burden which we can not bear.

�                      Always maintain respect. Never use disrespectful words or tones.

�                      Never use profanity and never curse your spouse.

�                      Husbands are especially patient during your wife's monthly cycle.

�                      Regularly and consistently do recreational activities together.

�                      Set aside special time at night for your spouse.

�                      Set aside time at least one or two times a week to talk and explain what's going on, to share in any news of joy or to exhale frustrations.

�                      Never argue in public, or in the presence of others.

�                      Encourage your spouse to beautify themselves at home. Often we get dressed up, and look nice and extra CHEEK to go out, or for an event, but we don't do the same things at home. Having good appearance for your spouse, especially within the home should be encouraged, and praised.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  

�                      It is important to understand that beautification for your spouse is mutual for men and women.

�                      Occasionally give gifts to your wife.

�                      Occasionally give money to your wife.

�                      Teach patience, by having patience when situations become difficult.

�                      There is no shame in apologizing, teach this by doing this.

�                      Upon the entrance door of your humble abode/ home, put ''Bismillah iraman irahim" In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.

�                      Husbands should read the Athan and or Quran loudly in the home.

�                      If a man visits a friend who is married but they have a wife who is not good, do not take your wife with you.

�                      Always try hard to get to know and understand your spouse.

�                      Men, recognize that the language of kindness and feeling is stronger than the language of force.

�                      How would you treat a flower? Give it water, sunlight, be gentle with its frailty, and just take time to smell the roses. Recognize their beauty and do not allow them to be damaged. Treat your wife like a flower.

�                      Spending time with your wife is a type of worship, and has the blessings of performing ''I'etikaf'' (fasting while in a mosque) in Masjid Al-Nabi (The Masjid of the Prophet).

�                      Show kindness and love. Actual demonstration is more important than just having feeling in your heart.

�                      Do not expect your spouse to change their flaws overnight some things need more time than others.

�                      Try to focus and reflect on our own faults and flaws, and ways to self-improve.

�                      Tell your spouse you love and care for them, (even if that is not completely true).

�                      There are no perfect marriages from the beginning and when you're having difficulty don't allow Shaitan to whisper into your hearts and tell you that the grass is always greener on the other side. Shaitan likes to divide and conquer by saying things such as 'if you were with someone else you would not have this problem but the reality check of the matter is that while that may or may not be true, everyone who is not infallible will certainly have their fare share of flaws and problems. And moreover, a perfect marriage entails a mutually perfect effort.

�                      Always, always make dua. Allah is Almighty.

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marriage is half....cleaning is half .....where do u fit in the rest of the stuff

Its sunnah its not half of ur imaan.....( could u quote an authentic hadith )

 I guess these days, one could live a better life without getting married   (jking )

Bismillah and salaams,

Jazzak Allah Khayr Brother S. for the lovely thoughts.

It's a little too late for some of us though, but maybe some young guys will read it and consider acting more positively.

For some of us SR, marriage cuts our religion apart because of all the difficulties.  So do we really pay attention to pat things like that?  A good marriage should be a large part of Muslims lives, but obviously that is impossible for many of us.  So we fill up the other part of our lives with other Islaamic things to make the total Islaamic life equal to a cool 100%

ak_m_f wrote: So westerners invented high divorce rates

Actually they don't have high rates cuz they don't even bother to marry.. ...if u know what im sayin