Hadith on Miscellany: If You Are As You Say, It Is As If You Are Feeding Them Hot Ashes, And You Will Be With A Supporter Against Them From Allah As Long As You Continue To Do So

Riyad as-Salihin 318 (Book) #38703

Maintaining Relationships Despite Unreciprocated Kindness

SUMMARY: The hadith is about the importance of maintaining relationships with family members, even if they are not reciprocating.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: A man said to Messenger of Allah ﷺ: "I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever relations with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me". He ﷺ replied, "If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so". Muslim.

وعنه أن رجلاً قَالَ : يَا رَسُول الله ! إنّ لِي قَرابةً أصِلُهُمْ وَيَقْطَعُوني ، وَأُحْسِنُ إلَيْهِمْ وَيُسِيئُونَ إلَيَّ ، وَأحْلَمُ عَنْهُمْ وَيَجْهَلُونَ عَلَيَّ ، فَقَالَ : " لَئِنْ كُنْتَ كَمَا قُلْتَ ، فَكأنَّمَا تُسِفُّهُمْ الْمَلَّ ، وَلا يَزَالُ مَعَكَ مِنَ اللهِ ظَهِيرٌ عَلَيْهِمْ مَا دُمْتَ عَلَى ذلِكَ ". ((رواه مسلم)).

TOPICS
relationship * kindness * ties * ashes * riaaya * hilm * inqata * tannoor

QUICK LESSONS:

Remain kind and gentle towards family members despite their unkind behavior towards you; strive for peace and harmony in your relationships; feed people hot ashes when necessary; keep trying to maintain ties with relatives even if they sever relations with you; treat them kindly regardless of how they treat you back .

EXPLANATIONS:

This hadith speaks to the importance of maintaining relationships with family members, even if they are not reciprocating. It encourages us to continue being kind and gentle towards them despite their unkind behavior towards us. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ compares this act of kindness to feeding someone hot ashes, which is a metaphor for how difficult it can be to remain kind in such situations. He also promises that Allah will be a supporter against those who sever ties with us as long as we continue our good deeds. This hadith teaches us that we should always strive for peace and harmony in our relationships, no matter how difficult it may seem at times.

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