Did he betray me?

 

I'm inclined to disagree-atleast the issue of semantics. I wouldn't go to the extent as to say marriages are deterorating I would say marriages are changing but this depends on the geographical location. The breadwinner time has passed and very few families are practicing it. Muslim professionals both men and women are in the workforce doing their duties and still able to have a viable family. I don't think a woman going into the field where it is heavily populated by men must attain male characteristics. This is false. If it is true I'd like you to specify in which occupation (if not all) are women to act like this.

 

As you all know because of my background and where I live a woman at least until she is about to give birth to my child has to work until our lives are stable enough where one of us can stay home. As one male speaking for myself, I have high academic standards which will get me in areas where I'll be able to make a very, gvery, very good living. But if there are Muslim women still stuck on the "I'm gonna stay home you take care of me bit" then obviously I won't choose them. Islam is about balance but its also about being realistic. We all live in different parts of the world. Our environments at least economically may differ and you can't suggest someone to pack their things up and move to a smaller town especially when their lives have already been established-it's not that easy.

 

Me personally I think a woman has more economical freedom in the workforce than at home. She doesn't have the burden of living under a man who supports her with essentials when she can provide her own essentials. all marriages don't always last so its important for a woman to at least be financially stable herself if she isn't already this doesn't even take into account the educational aspect of it. I'm sorry this is one area within Islam God and I "butt heads" but God knows my reasons and I hope sincerely he doesn't fault me for thinking the way I do. It isn't about disobedience, it's about survival.

 

 

There is much truth to this statement as a general rule, however I don't believe the issue is so black and white.  How many of us are thrilled and overjoyed when able to find a female ob/gyn and not suffer the indignity of males fulling this role?  The islamic society as well as families are in need of women for not just homemaker roles.  Likewise, families would also benefit from more men taking an active role in homemaking chores. And Allah Knows Best.

 

I sometimes constantly remind people that society isn't how it was in 500 A.D. Even if you don't live in luxury sometimes its hard getting byb, like I said all of which are dependent upon one's arrangement.