Being a Muslim

Yes Abuayisha, its Allah swt who bestows his hidayah.Neither me nor you can do any. But yes, i feel we need to help her here.Just it. You seem to be very angry. If i had hurted u intentionally or unintentional, pls forgive me.

Safiya - just move on postively. Success shall be yours

Safiya wrote: ... it's not like that among christians ...

Help and assistance has little to do with whether Christian, Muslim, atheist or otherwise, but a willingness to aide a fellow human and indeed it is a trait of Christians.

Sister Hayfa, JazakAllah for the moral booost up of Sayfa.

Abuayisha - We are not here to win a point or any debate. Please lets remember that its a  matter of  turning point of a life. If you have noticed my posts, i said its not necessary that we hide or reveal but to be at safer side as her mother is a strict person, let her hide it. If she has a stronger faith , let her announce her shahadah louder. Lets become her moral support .

Safiya - These unknown fears are abstaining you to embrace Islam. Its not that am forcing you, As you already said that you are contended with Islam, these whisperings of satan are obstructing the way towards. Be brave and move ahead.

You keep introducing them to Islam. Explain your mother that even Muslims believe in Jesus but as a messenger. We shall help then.  Islam doesn't teach to be dis-obedient to our parents be it a muslim or non-muslim. If you say it now, she will naturally object to it. And if you don't listen her, it may then be dis-obedience. Is n't it? You can still love her. Be in touch with her. Infact make calls more than frequent. As Hayfa says, its true that you are not lost. Be bold and confident in every work you do.

You must not have realised the worth of being a muslim. As i said above this fear is mere a whispering from satan. Its your very first trial. So please move boldly. When once you realise the beauty of Islam while, implementing in your life, you shall then feel to invite your mother too. In this process, we members of Islamicity shall stand by you.

Please read out the stories in this section as it shall help you realise and gain faith.

http://www.islamicity.com/forum/forum_topics.asp?FID=9

Welome to the Forum Safiya..

It can be a hard thing. I did not tell my family or friends for three years. It is less about fear of being "disowned." Mostly I am a very private person. And well I am not into big annoucements, gaining attention etc.

And you know.. becoming a Moslem, saying one's Shahada is between you and Allah. None of knows where life will take us. And really, no one can lead your life. You'll tell them when you are ready. Not before.

Your life is your life. It is your relationship with Allah. The ONLY thing you have to do is beleive their is no God but Allah, And Mohammed is his Messenger.

It is most important that you add onto your life what you can. No two people are alike. I don't think that just because you cannot tell your mom about Islam that you are not ready to begin.  I do karate. I"ve done it for 15+ years. And a beginner- white belt is not a black belt. Not in skill level, not in understanding etc. Each step is just a step. When you do your Shahada you are just getting your uniform and signing up for classes. You cannot possibly do it all. As a couple of good friends said to me and still do, go slow. Focus on the basics. You belief in Allah, the Prayers, Fasting in Ramadan.  And slowly add onto it. Start with parts that you can do, not eat pork etc.

If I kept a list of all the things I was told I "have" to do.. honestly I would have lost my mind.. lol  I know that I have more knowledge and information to deal with anything that comes my way. That is just me. Others can take on the "public" aspects of Islam right away. Great!

The Quran was revealed over a period of, I believe, 23 years. People were given things and other aspects were revealed later.. We are only but human.

Even though I did not tell my mother and everyone for a few years. I became a better person. That was my goal, was I a better daughter, sister and friend? Islam greatly influenced me in that regard. And interestingly when I told them, 3 years later, they could then see, I had not "changed" in any negative way. I was still the person I was, although inshallah, a better one.

I don't think you are lost at all. I would ask you, if you believe in the Shahada, that is what you start with. That and only that. One step at a time.

and again, welcome