Female Reverts outnumber men

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   Asalaamu aleikum

Well, I'm a female revert,mashallah, who found Islam while single, before I ever met my husband- and Not for the sake of a man or marriage, although I did marry later on.
I find it dismaying that many people automatically assume that I reverted for my husband. I understand that some women do just that, but it often seems to me a very shallow commitment- one that's often dropped as soon as the couple divorce and go their separate ways. Embracing Islam is more than just mouthing the Shahada, or being desperate to do anything to please a man at the sake of rejecting your own identity.
I think a lot of women are attracted initially to Islam by the special status and respect that is afforded women, by the standards of modesty and decency. This is a different kind of treatment than many of us in the west are used to- we see and feel the failure of "women's lib" and are not content to be reduced to "sex objects" on constant display. Islam is unique in it's concept of construction of femaleness and the relations between men and women. Subhanallah.
Of course there are other, spiritual factors at work, but I think these issues I outlined above play more of a role with women reverts than with men.

But, yes, Allah SWT guides whom he wills...