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    Posted: 13 October 2008 at 3:25am
I'm opposed to selective abortion mainly because I have known some wonderful down syndrome adults.  See my post about my friend.

But, it can be caught early, allowing parents to become educated and join the appropriate support groups.  Most problems come from families who do not know how to get the proper education and how to handle their children.

As for the "mansoom" thing.  I'm not sure how it is in Islam, but in the Eastern Orthodox Church, these individuals are called Holy Fools.  They are sent by God to teach us compassion and patience.  Its a grave sin to harm a Holy Fool and they are guaranteed a place in Heaven for accepting an imperfect body on this earth.   I may no longer be Eastern Orthodox, but I still believe harming one of these people (even before birth) is a grave sin and we fail that test. 

I cannot imagine my childhood without Stevie.  Nor can I imagine going to the Volunteer Fire Department in my home town without his smiling face.  Sadly, they do not live as long as we do and I fear I won't have my dear friend much longer.  I hope to see him on my next trip home.  His mother passed and my family said he has not done so well since she's been gone.
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Has anyone heard from 222dnallohc?
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Sorry If I may be diverging from the topic. . . but since there was a discussion about Down's Syndrome. . . and some ppl here seem to know a lot:
 
Are there 'kinds' of Down Syndromes? For e.g I have heard that some are naturally docile and manageable whilst others are rather aggressive. I've had the privelage of meeting some. . . and while some are very manageable and docile . . .others I've seen scarily aggressive. . . to the extent that they are violent to those around them. (Some one told me its due to the presence of double Y chromosomes(the aggressive DS) )
 
So anyway . .. if this is true. . . can this be diagnosed during pregnance? As in which DS baby-type we r going to have. And if this is true, perhaps parents could opt for selective abortion . . . as in abort the aggressive gene ones. . .Cz they can turn out to be a threat to society. Whilst keeping the relativley normal ones. . .
 
Or does it depend solely on how you bring up a DS-baby and teach it how to behave?
 
Also . . . is Hijab to be observed in front of adult ppl with DS? Or are they to be considered 'masoom' , as in innocents.
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Originally posted by 222dnallohc 222dnallohc wrote:

Assalamu Alaikum,

I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with our second child.  After some testing, we found out that our baby has Down Syndrome.  We have been given the choice as to whether to let the pregnancy continue or not.  Obviously it is forbidden for us to terminate the pregnancy...and I dont want to do that anyway.  My husband unfortunately does not think that he can handle this and he wants me to end the pregnancy.  He thinks the baby being disabled will tear our family apart and it will be a disgrace for him to have a son that has the problems that come with Downs.  He told me that in his culture, he is Arabic, that its a disgrace to have a child like that.

Needless to say I am absolutely shocked to hear this come out of his mouth.  I want to raise my son (we found out the baby is a boy), but my husband does not want him.

This seems like such an impossible situation for us right now.  How do I get through this?  I feel like he is trying to push me to do something I dont believe is right.  We are both Muslim, so I would have thought he would respond differently...thats why I am so shocked at his words.

What do I do?

Does anyone know if she had the baby? Khair Insha'Allah.
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Originally posted by Megatron Megatron wrote:

Let me just say, I hope your husband fries in Hell for wanting to kill a baby for being born with Down's Syndrome. 

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Let me just say, I hope your husband fries in Hell for wanting to kill a baby for being born with Down's Syndrome. 
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Thankyou for replying and Thank God for the blessings he gave you, you both certainly deserved them.
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Yes we were able to.  We had a healthy son before our two daughters and another daughter a few years after them. Thank you for asking. 
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