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aichafatih 
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 Topic: Marriage Trouble!!!Posted: 08 May 2009 at 2:25am |
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Dear lovely sister,
I have a similar situation, maybe better, but really similar. i suggest you to tell his parents he drinks and ask them to help you praying Allah , He can let him stop drinking I suggest you to pray and talk always about Allah in your husband's presence and even when you see or talk to his parents. when you do that you will begin to feel stronger than them because Allah will help you. Then I tell you I would like talking to you more and more to pass you some of the hard way I did till now with my marriage. I hope I can stay with him all life and see our relationship getting better and better, but in the same time I am also getting informed about all lows of legal separation... I have next meeting with an association fro this just next week. I send you my best wishes and regards. love, Aicha. salamu alaykom wa rachmatullah wa barakatuh |
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proudmuslima3
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Posted: 07 May 2009 at 9:39pm |
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Asalamu Alaikum my duas r with u and ur baby . I can relate to ur story, my husband and i have been married almost 4yrs and hes so angry and verbally abusive and he has put his hands on me. I do love him but i get so frustrated and depressed at times. Im so unhappy with the way my marriage has turned out. We was so happy and in love, hes lost respect 4 me. And 2 make matters worse im the 2nd wife. Hes not just, i know its wrong but ive snooped around n found information that has really hurt me cause it validated what i was feeling. I told him 2 divorce me and let me be. But we havent. Hes a good man in many ways but we r not happy wit each other any more. And that hurts me cause i do love him and when things r good between us im happy but wen its bad its bad. Insha Allah U make dua 4 me and ill make dua 4u
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FatimaNicole
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 9:57pm |
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Salaam Sister, I am new here and read about your situation. Making dua for you! Insha'allah you will find happiness.
Peace & love to you,
FatimaNicole
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raiya16
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 6:04am |
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Salaams Sisters,
My husband was supposed to meet with me on saturday to do talaq and he just stood us up and ignored our calls. I went to the police last night and made a report and they have arrested him and taken him in for questioning. Inshallah it will all work out... i will keep you informed, but i think we are taking it to court on the charge of actual body harm...
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Hayfa
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Posted: 28 November 2008 at 6:40pm |
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Salaams Raiya,
I am not sure anyone would know the answe, as qumus said, you will need to ask a scholar.
Keep us posted. We are your sisters here.. we may never meet but we are here for you.
Hayfa
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When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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gumus
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Posted: 27 November 2008 at 8:40pm |
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Salaams
Allah will forgive you inshallah as this was the last thing you wanted(a divorce), you only did this as the last choice since there was no other option.
You had a legitamite reason for your divorce so Allah will forgive you Inshallah.
By the way do not sign anything without knowing what you are about to sign, and he can't threaten you to sign against your will.
For the talaaq I may be wrong so please confirm with an Islamic Scholar, but even a woman can obtain through the Islamic Scholar/Islamic court and get divorce by asking for it.
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raiya16
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Posted: 26 November 2008 at 6:33am |
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jazakallah for all your duas, they have helped a lot. Luckily, i do have my bank stuff back, he had to give it to me, because everything is in my name, and it is illegal for him to hold my documents. I have changed the card pin numbers so i do not have to worry. His wage is still coming into my account because he has to wait 2 weeks for his work to change accounts. Sisters i also want to ask a very important question so please respond as quickly as you can...
We have had so many arguments, and in almost every one of those arguments, even tho it was just us two, he has said to me "i am giving you talaaq" Does this mean we are already divorced a long time ago? Because he has said it ore than 3 times... about 20 times even!!! I need to know, because my uncle is coming from south africa, and we were going to go with him to my husband and ask him to give me talaaq. Please let me know if you know about this, because maybe that will not be necessary if he has already said it.
Baby and i are doing fine Alhamdulillah... Yes women are very strong... i thank Allah for giving me the strength to take such a big step. I know Allah hates divorce but i will make dua and pray everyday that he makes me maaf Inshallah...
I will keep you informed as to the progress of the matter. Please respond to my question as soon as possible.
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Hayfa
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Posted: 26 November 2008 at 4:00am |
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Subhanallah, thisi s great news.. I am so happy your family is there for you.
I agree with gumus, change the accounts, just for security, as one never knows. Upon all that you have been through you don't want financial matters to add to it.
Give yourself space and time for you to recover. Often it is not the physical wounds but the mental and emotional ones that pain us the most. Be kind to yourself.
Allah has made we women Strong! Some perceive us as "weak" due to physical stature. But we deal with alot. May Allah reward you for your patience.
My Duas are with you and the baby.
Hayfa
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When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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