Outlining the ideal husband

 

Well, I don't want to put my foot in my mouth (or get my head slapped since wifey is behind me cooking! LOL) my wife and I are different in many respects and similar in many respects. I guess if I were to use my best logic I would say that opposites do attract, but then there is the issue with how large is the gap in personality? Again, if I'm an extrovert and I love to go out and be active and do fun things and my partner doesn't then for her I can compromise or at least meet halfway. Now it becomes an issue if the partner is unwilling to compromise or at least meet half-way. But those who have similarities and find pleasure in similar activities I would say its a lot easier to enjoin in the pleasurable without fear of the other not enjoying them as you do.

 

So although opposites attract, the key thing here is survivability of the relationship and three key questions: a) If opposite, is the partner willing to compromise on the things they don't normally do? b) How much are you willing to compromise?

 

A good example of this is a relationship between a Muslim woman and a non-muslim man. Of course such relationships are taboo in the Muslim world. But if the man is areligious or associated with a religious group, but is willing to convert to Islam then this is this man's compromise (of course the sincerity of conversion is questioned here). But in such a circumstance, the survivability in this particular relationship would last much longer if both had similar interests i.e. both being practicing Muslims. Sorry to babble

I'm sure there are many 'good" men out there but being good and having all these necessary qualities doesn't gurantee a fulfilling relationship. Sometimes a man can have all of these positive qualities and be an extrovert while you (the woman) with good qualities yourself can be an introvert. whether or not you allow this minor (or major) difference affects your relationship depends on the people. But I typically believe people with common interests last longer than those who don't.