second wife

Muslima wrote: Thank you brother Abeer. I knew it was possible! And I had not meant it in a bad way, going from one person to another (which was a gratuitous comment). Salam brother.

You're welcome Muslima.  By the way, Abeer is a girls' name. I'm a sister.

salaam

 

Muslima wrote: What if I do not want to be married legally? Just with Halal?

Beloved sister,

"Legally" only means having to do with paper, which has no real purpose in the sight of Allah.  It must always be halal, no matter where you live, how old you are, who you are, etc.  Allah's laws are the only laws that should govern a Muslim.

In the same way, if you want your marriage to be "legal", it must still be halal.

Muslima wrote: I would not have a problem being married with Halal. Of course, the point is not to marry a hundred times, and then you chose someone, it is supposed to be the one. But this is not Haram to marry many times in Islam even for women. Of course, it should not be the purpose but a woman can get dovorced and remarry.

As salamuaikum,

Muslima, if you want an Islamic marriage only that's fine.  I know lots of sisters in the states who did this.  They're husbands are still with them and supporting them and the children have their father's name.

As far a husband taking a second wife in the west.  It's still halal.  Secular laws that's contradict Allah's law can never change Allah's law.  What is halal Allah has made clear and what is haram Allah has made clear.   We cannot make what is halal haram anymore than we can make what is haram halal.  Remember this is what the previous nations did and Allah ta'la was angry with them.  Yaqoolu ta'la:

5:87 O ye who believe! make not unlawful the good things which Allah hath made lawful for you, but commit no excess: for Allah loveth not those given to excess.

Salaam

 

If one married with a pious husband her rights will be assured,but i do not understand why we separated legal and halal marriage between to each other...qur'an's rules is also legal...all we need is to consider on whom we marry with...