Interracial relationships

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"and my friend who's in US says that it's so scary to pass by black people especially when you're in a place where only black people gahter. so it makes scary to love a blackman? "

I think your friend must have gone into a "ghetto", which is very unsafe.  It is usually inhabited by the poor, drug addicted, alcoholic and violent gangs.  There are white slums too....and no one who cares for their own safety would ever want to go there either.  They are usually referred to as 'inner city' areas and they are quite dangerous to walk around in alone. 

We tend to associate poor, inner-city with danger and bad people. And this in this country is associated with black people. Through media, etc, I have seen many people either from the suburbs or immigrants think that poop=black=dangerous.

I go everywhere by bus in my city-Washington DC. Many times the buses go through less-developed areas. Many people would be afraid to be there. But alas I never have a day of trouble. Whereas my friend's father was murdered in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods. In a "good" neighborhood.

I have heard racist comments by many immigrants regarding black people. Their perception is through what they see on TV News.

I agree there are white slums as well but that is not what people think.

Having taught self-defense to many people, the reality of the situation is often different then what is the perception. Most people will be a victim of crime by someone from their own ethnic group.

Peace

Dear Schwester, you said this:

"and my friend who's in US says that it's so scary to pass by black people especially when you're in a place where only black people gahter. so it makes scary to love a blackman? "

I think your friend must have gone into a "ghetto", which is very unsafe.  It is usually inhabited by the poor, drug addicted, alcoholic and violent gangs.  There are white slums too....and no one who cares for their own safety would ever want to go there either.  They are usually referred to as 'inner city' areas and they are quite dangerous to walk around in alone. 

But they are very easily avoided, and the rest of the cities are quite nice and pleasant.  This is where your friend should be visiting.

God's Peace.

I think people tend to gravitate towards thier own "culture" which is partially due to societal pressures and also a loack of critcal anaylsis.

I visited a friend from another cutlure for a few days. They were a decent Islamic household. And their actions were cultural. For instance: having 5 course meal with tea at 1am! (Now try and get up for morning prayers going to bed at that hour??). How we act, dress, food, language all makes people fee like they have a place, an identity. This is good for community but needs balance as to remember the greater meaning in a wider world. Most of us are not isolated. We live in a diverse and dynamic world. No culture has a monopoly on the good and correct way to be. Being exposed is not a bad thing to open up horizons and for self-growth. We have minds we should use them, in halal ways of course.