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    Posted: 07 November 2005 at 4:31pm

Bismillah,

Go to that link mentioned above.

It won't work out for you in any nice way with what you have described.  Whether Rudy's thought that it might be an excuse is right or not, either way, he is not the guy for you.  The only way it would work is if he made a stand for you right now of his own accord.  And knowing these guys, he won't. 

They don't understand that bravery can be exhibited in a situation like this.  They see it as disrespect for their families.  But then, who made him put himself in this situation?  He did.  He doesn't want to take responsibility.  He is a coward, and you don't need that.

Stop looking at the good things in him, and notice what a bad thing he is doing now, right now.  Be patient; don't despair; and seek Allah, SWT's guidance in all things.

Rudy,

You know that the older guys have to object to a post like that in the general section.  Please don't threaten people with manilla envelopes anymore!
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Alaikoam salam

I believe education is the key here in delaying sexual intamacy until a person has a haelthy relationship with themselves, others and the world where there is respect, however we can say all we wanmt and people may still decide for themselves, though I believe parents, care givers should guide young people well and have open lines of communication or at least a safe place ie counselor to consult with inshallah.

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Hmmmmmmmmm,

glad the age issue was resolved.

 

 
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Technically speaking we are all Muslims and each religion or lack of it is a spiritual path to choose from and can be defined by the Word Islam or Life..

The bigger question in inter marriage whether race, cultural or riligious it is all of a spiritual nature and what needs to be looked at is how well the couple get along with each other, respect each other, their families etc.

There is practice of some men and women using members of the opposite or same sex as sex toys and then ending the relationship when they find Mr. or Miss Right.

I ask you why should anyone be a toy to used, though I admit there are times when you really need someone however given education on coping with sexual frustration and partial otr total abstance is key to being a little safer and surer you do not jump into a relationship just for sex or without really knowing the person first including yourself.

We all deserve to be loved and we need to make ourselves ready to love and be loved.

So when we do find the love of our life the love lasts.

Salam Alaikoam

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I think your "boyfriend" is shooting himself in the foot.  If he truly loves you does he honestly think these feelings are gonna disappear when he marries this new person.  If I were in your position Grace, I'd be very angry at him. 

You deserve better than that.  If my parents arranged a marriage with someone and I was in love with another, I'd tell my parents thanks but no thanks.  I'm not a big fan of arranged marriages but a lot of people have been made very happy by them, but if you can find love on your own I don't see the point of it. 

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ak_m_f.....impressive, you actually can count that far kid. I'm proud of you son.



peace -rudy

Originally posted by ak_m_f ak_m_f wrote:

Originally posted by rudy rudy wrote:

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Originally posted by discusted2 discusted2 wrote:



I think 13 - 15 years old

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Originally posted by rudy rudy wrote:

Haya is what you lack dude. Only stupid typical grandpas like urself
ask such questions and make such remarks.� I'm old enought to buy
a� manilla envelope and mail yourself to me so I can kick the Sh__
out of you.

peace - rudy

Originally posted by discusted2 discusted2 wrote:

rudy


how old are you son ?


you humor is childish and� lacks �(haya)(haya:politeness, respect,disincy)



I think 13 - 15 years old

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Haya is what you lack dude. Only stupid typical grandpas like urself ask such questions and make such remarks.  I'm old enought to buy a  manilla envelope and mail yourself to me so I can kick the Sh__ out of you.

peace - rudy

Originally posted by discusted2 discusted2 wrote:

rudy

how old are you son ?

you humor is childish and  lacks  (haya)(haya:politeness, respect,disincy)
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