Found out sister committed zina

Assalaamu'alaikum

Sister, even if the manner in which you have obtained evidence is blameworthy - you can't NOT do anything about the evidences you've discovered (if they are credible and not purely opinionated or out of context).

My suggestion is to first have your own personal intervention with her, but to do this you would have to first introspect on your intention. Do you truly love her and desire for her what you desire for yourself? be sure you do not remotely have any intention to prove yourself better than her or to ridicule or demean her.

Sit her down, shed real tears and explain how wrong it was for you to have done what you did... but at the same time what you have seen... and that you are breaking up on the inside because of it. Explain to her that the only reason you haven't told your parents is because you wanted to first discuss with her... and that you want to help her stop what she is doing without burdening anyone else with the matter.
explain to her that at the end of the day... your parents would not be there forever and that you would like for her and you to help each other in goodness no matter the circumstances, and that you have nobody but her to turn to when your parents have passed on.

please keep this in mind that she might retaliate at first... that is only natural... but be patient through it and revisit the discussion with her after a few days.

if this one-on-one approach proves fruitless for a while, your next priority is to politely (not threateningly) inform your sister that you are out of options... (she would hopefully understand what this means)

then you submit to informing your parents (because you also owe it to them to do so - regardless of dad's condition)

Insha-Allah hope this helps.
WasSalaam

feel free to PM me if you would like more personal advise on what transpires...

Saleha_KH:

Wa alaikum salaam.

She does not wish to get married to these people; and it was multiple people she is talking to or sexting.

Recently one of them has threatened to leak her nude pictures. We are really in a bad situation. He has contacted me and told me that my sis has stopped talking to him, so she better continue or else he will post her pics on a fake facebook account he created (& blocked me on).

I personally do not think it is a Sin- I did not do it with the intention to embarrass her, only to help her. Also; if I had not gone and tried to figure out about her situation she would have NEVER in a million years told me. In fact the guy was THIS close to posting the pics if he hadn't gotten in contact with me because he wasn't getting any responses from my sister.

So marriage is not the issue.

Asalamoaalikum sister,

There is a reason Islam forbids us to be in quest of knowing others' secrets. You should not have done that.

Now that you have done so. Please try and see if your sister wants tog et married with someone. Perhaps she has more desires. Perhaps she is frustrated. Find out a solution and facilitate her into finding a halal solution, that is marriage. Or hint to your parents about her marriage to someone she loves/likes.

ABUAYISHA:

I hope you know that if I did not look at those messages this would be continuously going on. The chatting, calling and the meetups. I believe Allah gave me this information so that I could do something about it.

In addition, I did not want to overload with details, but she screenshot a lot of pages about birth control, and signs of pregnancy.

Also, she wrote a little online text document stating when and what she had done.

I do not wish to use this information against her, I want her to understand that this is a sin and it is hurting her. That is the problem because we have the worst relationship.

Edited by stargirl786 - 07 January 2016 at 11:12am