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   Well done for being able to overcome your mother's emotional abuse. 

I think I understand why your father might have left her. 

In this relationship you have the power. It is your money she is poncing off you. You can say that the rules are x or y. You can say how much of your money you will or will not give her but I don't see that you owe her much of anything, you have given a lot already. You seem to have recieved little from her other than pain. 

I am impressed with your strength of character and determination. 

Good luck. 

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Tim the plumber Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 30 September 2014 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 944	Post Options Post Reply Quote Tim the plumber Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Family issue Posted: 31 August 2016 at 11:55am
	Well done for being able to overcome your mother's emotional abuse. I think I understand why your father might have left her. In this relationship you have the power. It is your money she is poncing off you. You can say that the rules are x or y. You can say how much of your money you will or will not give her but I don't see that you owe her much of anything, you have given a lot already. You seem to have recieved little from her other than pain. I am impressed with your strength of character and determination. Good luck.

asep48garut60 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 27 July 2016 Location: Indonesia Status: Offline Points: 248	Post Options Post Reply Quote asep48garut60 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 29 August 2016 at 11:35pm
	Wa�alaikumsalam Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaatuhu, all suggestions from our relatives (Faisal and Sultana99) are all good and helpful for you. Your life journey has a similar experience with me, the difference is that I am a man (now 56 years). You don't despair and feel depressed, please read the words of Allah, such as: At Taghabun sura (64):11, Al Mu�Min sura (40):60, Al Baqarah sura (2):45, Al Baqarah sura (2):186 Narrated by Imam Bukhari and Imam Muslim: �A Muslim who gets the hardships of life, disease, poverty, including pricked by a thorn or more than that, Allah Subhanahu Wata�ala will remove his/her sins, like the falling leaves from its tree.� I pray to Allah, hoping that you will get a solution soon, and trust to Allah that He will help His servants, one day you will find happiness. Insha Allah. Ameen. Wassalamu�alaikum, Asep

Fatou Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 19 May 2016 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote Fatou Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 10 August 2016 at 7:02am
	Thank you for the advice

Sultana99 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 28 May 2016 Status: Offline Points: 25	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sultana99 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 18 July 2016 at 2:42am
	You may leave the house as well .I think you should Edited by Sultana99 - 18 July 2016 at 2:43am

Sultana99 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 28 May 2016 Status: Offline Points: 25	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sultana99 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 18 July 2016 at 2:36am
	As for your mother she is your responsibility and door to jannah so you need to take care of her in all ways without causing undue harm of any kind to your mind family or finance Edited by Sultana99 - 18 July 2016 at 2:36am

Sultana99 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 28 May 2016 Status: Offline Points: 25	Post Options Post Reply Quote Sultana99 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 18 July 2016 at 2:34am
	Assalamalikum your mom looks like a typical mom most people have your mom has gone through so much this may be expected of her in most situations moms who have lived a relatively good life are also like this .The best part is despite all this your letter never mentions that you ever became depressed or lost your peace of mind , maybe because you are more socially active.think about the children who become depressed and mad due to their parents and the same parents give them antidepressants and antipsychotics.unless Allah wills your mom is going to remain as unreasonable forever.its not her fault something she can change or have control even young people your siblings , cousin's or in laws or even spouse can be weird some change some are simply unchangeable .you should be grateful that mashAllah you have lived well got married have a wonderful spouse and leave all these problems to Allah .and live your life happily .may Allah give you barakath

Fatou Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter. Female Joined: 19 May 2016 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 4	Post Options Post Reply Quote Fatou Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 July 2016 at 10:24am
	Thank you for the advice.

fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 30 June 2016 at 6:47pm
	Walekum assalam, Well I think you should respect your Mom but not at cost of her unislamic demands. you can provide her with how much she needs and rest save for your better future. You said you got married, if yes then it is your husband and you who will decide what needs to be done with the income in the family. If you are staying with her than you might leave her house and take care of her by visiting her everyday. You should contact your other relatives as your mom has no right to cut you from the relation of Womb. Hope this helps Regards Faisal