Marriage

no.shirk wrote: bismail-lah Alhamderillahie-rubbul aalymeen since that last time i posted Posted: ***01 March 2006 at 3:03am | IP Logged** thats when i was looking for marriage hehe and striving to do it in halal and i had to be very patient and very choosey on the deen part but i couldnt find any 1 but subhanallah the family of my spouse found me, and all praises to allah, that now he has blessed me with a spouse alhamderillah    she is very rightious may allah protect her and preserve her, and may allah the most high bless all of my brothers and sisters in islam in there marriage and in every thing else on wat is halal and may allah give you wats best for you all.  (allahumma ameen)

Bismillah,

Mabrook!  Congratulations!

bismail-lah

Alhamderillahie-rubbul aalymeen since that last time i posted Posted: ***01 March 2006 at 3:03am | IP Logged** thats when i was looking for marriage hehe and striving to do it in halal and i had to be very patient and very choosey on the deen part but i couldnt find any 1 but subhanallah the family of my spouse found me, and all praises to allah, that now he has blessed me with a spouse alhamderillah    she is very rightious may allah protect her and preserve her, and may allah the most high bless all of my brothers and sisters in islam in there marriage and in every thing else on wat is halal and may allah give you wats best for you all.  (allahumma ameen)

Edited by no.shirk

1. Marriage is for the sake of Allah. Its purposes are to

establish a Muslim family, have offspring, transmit

the message of Allah, and through them, carry on

the human race. Allah, the Almighty, has said:

Say: �Allah did choose Adam and Noah, the fam-ily

of Abraham, and the family of �Imran above all

people, offspring, one of the other. [Qur�an 3:34]

2. Marriage serves to protect one�s modesty and dignity,

and one�s fear of the Lord. The Prophet of Allah (s)

said:

Three [people] are entitled to Allah�s help. The

fighter (mujahid) in the cause of Allah, the trustee,

and the person who marries for protection (of his or

her modesty). [Tirmidhi]

Whoever marries, has completed half of his religion,

and the other half is fear of Allah. [Tabrani]

3. The choice of a lifetime partner, a wife or a husband,

demands one�s best effort. The Messenger of Allah

(s) said:

�Choose[the best] for your generation because [the

failure of a single] generation can lead to a crisis.�

[Ibn Majah]

4. The qualities of a good wife are good behavior and

religious commitment, not wealth and beauty. The

Messenger of Allah (s), said:

Do not marry women because of their beauty; their

beauty may spoil them. Do not marry them because

of their money; their money may oppress them. But

marry them because of their piety (din). And a slave

girl, deaf, but pious is better. [Ibn Majah]

If a man marries a woman because of her (worldly)

status, Allah will reward him only with degradation;

and if a man marries her because of her wealth, this

will bring him only poverty; and if a man marries

because of her family, Allah will reward him only by

humiliation; but if a man marries for the sake of Al-lah,

Allah will bless him with her and bless her with

him. [Tabrani]

Of course I forgot to mention that you do indeed need to look into the background of your spouse and I do hope it's a good practicing muslimah.  If you are afraid to talk to your parents about this maybe you might want to talk it over in confidence with an Islamic scholar, I'm sure he'll listen to you and you have nothing to fear.Alot of times they are willing to listen to problems and help out.