your opinion? - agnostic meets Muslim

Hello. I had thought my thread died so I hadn't looked at it for a while, and had been away from my home town and therefore the coffee house for a while.

The 'problem', insofar as it is one, has died down really. I have given up either greeting her or giving her a quick attempt at a smile and am trying to press on with my own activities, but I do feel a bit saddened still for the time being.

I should clarify that she spends a lot of time in that place. It's her right to and to spend it on her own or with whoever she likes, but I don't think she feels she may not socialise or partake in caffeine or anything like that, if that was implied before. I'm not angry at her or judging her but I reserve my right to feel an actual sadness for the time being. I don't think there is enough mixing, at least in a town like mine, and I think more mixing between cultures would be healthier. I hope I find someone who will take the place I hoped she might.

It's true that I could find out what I'd like to know here and from books, but I'm pretty solitary, reluctantly, and would like to have discovered these things in the context of a friendship. I'd like to have asked her about Amina Wadud and Laila Ahmed and the like, and whether most of her guidance was from men when she was converting. I was interested in how she feels about possible conflict in her life as an intellectually capable person and as a woman - how much of what goes through her mind does she have to let go of, and so on. Things that take some diplomacy and care to ask about.

Part of me wonders if she's read this and recognised herself.

I imagine this matter is pretty dead now, though it could be resuscitated if I should meet a replacement.

Whether God is something pre-existing or whether it's a faculty human beings have evolved, my intentions are genuine, and I would say to anyone living by God, at this difficult and far from peaceful time on a world heading for ecological destruction regardless of creed and allegiance: if my actions towards this woman aren't God working through a human being, then what is?

Abuayisha: Stay away from her.

Airmano:

Edited by airmano - 11 September 2016 at 2:58pm

Thanks to both of you.

There might be translation/communication problems here, but I am still very grateful for contributions that have been made or that might be made.

I think as oxymoronic as it sounds that I probably am, in fact, a confirmed agnostic. I think human beings do not have the tools to know and that we merely commit to ideas based on our fallible experiences, and that this is all we have. I would not want to offend anyone by saying this and am merely saying that this is where my particular life has led me. Though being an agnostic of the type I am causes much doubt, doubt can be an oddly positive thing - it limits aggression and can limit any instinct to impose will on others or to expect others to see things as the agnostic does. This is something that can facilitate peace.

My interest in this woman is as I portray it. I think there would be some beauty in being a friend of someone with a different ontological makeup who is still very conceivably an ally. I can see, David, that you think this woman's religiosity has caused my dormant one to flicker, and it may be so, but I'm inclined to think things are as I present them on this occasion, as stated above.

Hello id665310,
I apologize if there are errors in giving advice or thoughts requested by you, however, can it be explained more specifically ? so that we can capture directly what's the real intention.

Thank you.