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 One thing I promise, inshallah it may ease your heads of worry has it done so, that I will never turn away from the light of Allah, for having once seen it and known the truth I can distinguish the dark and lies. [/QUOTE] 
As'Salaamu Alakum Sister:

Sister I think you need to really consider some of the choices you are about to make. Also take some time to make sincere dua concerning the situation you are in. In all honesty what you are engaging in may just stay online and you probably never will meet the young man. But regardless of if you meet this young man or not, your frame of mind and your intentions are going to surely affect your Iman( your faith). 

Obviously, you sharing with other muslims what you are going through is a sign that you are battling in your heart and mind what is the choice to make. You have one part of you telling you what is the 'right' Islamic choice to make. But on the other side, you have these 'feelings' in your heart, that makes you feel you are in love. It sound like this young man has open up feelings you never had, everything feels bright and new and  you really sound as if you have this burst of energy. But you know deep down that these postive feelings you have for the young man that is not muslim is really taboo and it goes against what is taught in Islam. Maybe even the thougt of it being taboo brings on this heightened pleasure.
This young man may be really bright, nice, and everything you dream of in your future husband, but regardless of his positive traits, his rejection of the prophet Muhammad (pbuh), should make all his good traits void for you.

Sister, you already know of all the great aspects our Prophet brought to the people of the world, for the Muslms. So I'm not going to go down that road to list any...
But wouldn't you think that it will be disrepectful to our Prophet, to your family,  to yourself, most importantly to Allah(swt) to consider a relationship with the young man. 

Lets not even look at the fact that really no mosque will allow you to marry, that obviously you will be without your wali when you make this marriage decision, or that his parents and church will probably not accept  the marriage... 
lets just consider what's in the Quran.

surah 3:28
Let not the believers Take for friends or helpers Unbelievers rather than believers: if any do that, in nothing will there be help from Allah: except by way of precaution, that ye may Guard yourselves from them. But Allah cautions you (To remember) Himself; for the final goal is to Allah. 

there are other similar verses in the Quran..

So if you say that you will never turn away from the light of the Quran, just consider that one verse.

Your friend rejects the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) so he is classified as a unbeliever.

Now just consider some other factors. Even though alot of these 'relationships' never make it off line and the chances of either of you guys 'waiting' for one another is a slim chance. Lets just say that some rare chance the two of you have children.
How would you raise  your children if Daddy rejects Islam but Mommy is a Muslimah. How would you explain that you pray five times a day,  but daddy doesn't. Daddy doesn't go to a Masjid  but mommy does. Daddy can eat during Ramadan but you and the children can't.  As a mom you want the best for your children, and who else should lead the family but a Muslim brother.

Salaam

By the way. everyone in the forum you chat with regardless of how 'pious' their character is has been through a life situation that has made them feel that no one 'understands' how they feel. But remember, its your level of strength that will determine your outcome in this phrase in your life. Insha'Allah, your love for life is not stronger then your love of being in the rightous hereafter.