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sharonjundi wrote: I want to thank you for your prayers and support. I have had a better weekend. Now, today I am asking my husband what his intentions are in our relationship... It has been over 4 months since our seperation. I need to know what he wants, but I do not feel like it is his decision only to ask for a divorce. Is that correct? Should it be both of our decisions, or can he make the decision by himself. I am tired and stressed out over what he is doing. I do not want this to become a divorce but what can I do? It seems like he wants to make all the decisions now. Please tell me is this correct, or can I dispute it. I pray to ALLAH for more guidance and let him decide what is the right thing to do. Please pray for me and thank you for being so kind and replying back to me. ALLAH bless us all and keep us strong and safe in our lives. Sharon

As Salaamulaikum.Sister Sharonjundi Im always pleased to hear from you.(Ahamduillah) you had a better weekend.If you are willing to ask a question,then you should be ready for the answer.Weather if you are wiiling to except the answer is another question.How about instead of asking what your husbans intentions are asks is there any chance of reconciliation.I pray that Allah will soften your hearts and your words and no matter what the out come is to be that you two will find peace with eachother and one day reconcile.Regaurdless Sister Sharon remain a good Muslim woman thats what Allah loves.Im sorry if things doesnt turn out the way you want them too.You have to remember (Ahamduillah) for everything good or bad.As for your Questions yes he can.But sister have patience you always say(it seems like he wants a divorce)you should indeed know for sure because he might just wants to be alone.Sometimes people get tired of making choices for more than one person it can seem like your brain is overcrowded.Forgive me for that I just had to give you and example of how I use to feel at times.Dont get discouraged keep faith in Allah and let him be your guide.

Hello again,

I know now that it will be over for my husband and I.
Thanks so much for all your prayers and support....

I really appreciate the effort and support that you
have given me in the past. I now know that ALLAH
does not want us to share our lives together any
more. Thanks again for all the support.

May ALLAH bless us all........
Thanks once again.

Sharon

Edited by sharonjundi - 03 December 2008 at 6:57pm

sharonjundi wrote: Hello again, I know now that it will be over for my husband and I. Thanks so much for all your prayers and support.... I really appreciate the effort and support that you have given me in the past. I now know that ALLAH does not want us to share our lives together any more. Thanks again for all the support. May ALLAH bless us all........ Thanks once again. Sharon

As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.It's always good to hear from you.I want to know that you are doing good (Inshallah).Hey'If it is Allah(SWT) will then it is.But know that men have there own will and do what they want not what is right by Allah.How are (you) doing?Do you like pets?You need something to keep you occupied,Can you volunteer for anything at your Masjid.I know you have to have at least one friend you never answered that question?No one to talk to in person?

sharonjundi wrote: Hello again, I am trying to keep busy. I have a few friends, but they are mostly from work. They like to go out to places that I do not care to go. I enjoy going out to eat and to the movies. My son that lives here with me, took me out over the weekend for lunch and shopping. I love to go shopping even if I do not buy anything. I have a grand daughter that is 3 years of age. Her daddy is from my oldest son Ali. She brings me lots of joy. I also have a dog and a cat. They are very special to me. Thank you so much again for all your kindness. I hope your life is not as sad as mine. May ALLAH Bless you for being there for me lately. You have become a good friend for me....... Thanks again so much for your kindness and I will always pray that ALLAH gives me more strength and peace from now on........ Sharon

As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.(Alhamduillah).Once again I am pleased to hear from you, though sadden by the bad news.(Ahamduillah)You still have some joy in your life,thats great" to know you are not alone.May Allah continue to give you joy in this life and the next.(Inshallah)(Ameen)