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   As Salaamu Alakium
Am a converted  very new muslim woman. I meet a muslim man about a year ago amonth after we meet he asked me to marry him in april i was christain at that time, i said yes. then in july i took shada in front of him he requested i learn all i could  but i negelcted to do this i thought i was to learn from him and i've not found women to talk to or learn from I'm at a lost and i may loss him if i dont get what i need as the anyone that can help me ????????? Please 

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vdqkands4life Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 20 March 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote vdqkands4life Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: need of help Posted: 20 March 2009 at 8:51am
	As Salaamu Alakium Am a converted very new muslim woman. I meet a muslim man about a year ago amonth after we meet he asked me to marry him in april i was christain at that time, i said yes. then in july i took shada in front of him he requested i learn all i could but i negelcted to do this i thought i was to learn from him and i've not found women to talk to or learn from I'm at a lost and i may loss him if i dont get what i need as the anyone that can help me ????????? Please

samriha123 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Male Joined: 26 February 2009 Status: Offline Points: 5	Post Options Post Reply Quote samriha123 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 March 2009 at 6:40pm
	SALAM. SISTER I AM HAPPY TO HELP YOU AND I IT IS VERY NICE OF YOU TO JOIN. PLEASE ADD ME AND INSHALLA YOU WILL FIND THE TEACHINGS OF ALLAH. I THINK YOU SHOULD FIND A MUSJID CLOSE TO YOU AND I KNOW THAT . THEY WILL HELP YOU ,INSHALLA. SAMRIHA

semar Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Islam Joined: 11 March 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1830	Post Options Post Reply Quote semar Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 March 2009 at 1:28am
	Salam, Welcome, where are you located?, we might able to find a mousque/islamic center near you, that might can help you.
	Salam/Peace, Semar "We are people who do not eat until we are hungry and do not eat to our fill." (Prophet Muhammad PBUH) "1/3 of your stomach for food, 1/3 for water, 1/3 for air"

Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 March 2009 at 5:34am
	Salaams, Welcome to the Forum. It is great you want to learn about Islam.. we are here for you. What do you want to learn about? You need to take on things gradually at the speed you are able to. First and foremost I would say learn about Islam for YOU. Not for anyone else. If being a Muslim is about doing it for this man, it can really mix you up! It is good that he wants you to learn. A good place to read articles about women is: http://jannah.org/sisters/ Islam is about finding your path to Allah- your Creator. Marriage is ONE aspect of how to live in this life to get to jannah-heaven. Are YOU wanting this information for YOU? Do you enjoy learning about Islam etc. The man is right that you should lern more BEFORE You enter marriage. You need to be strong in both becmonig a Muslim and entering into marriage. Maybe read the articles or read threads here and ask questions... it takes awhile to digest it all. I would really, really caution you on gettig married until you know alot more about Islam. In Islam there are responsibilites and rights for both men and women. It can be a bit different than what we may be used to. I'd makesure to know and feel comfortable before marrying.
	When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi

Akhe Abdullah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 19 November 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1252	Post Options Post Reply Quote Akhe Abdullah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 21 March 2009 at 8:25am
	As Salamu Alaikum sister and welcome to the forum.It is a blessing from Allah that you even want to study your Deen(Religion/way of life),and strenghten your Iman(Faith).May Allah bless you and your family.Ameen

vdqkands4life Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Joined: 20 March 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2	Post Options Post Reply Quote vdqkands4life Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 April 2009 at 2:13pm
	As Slaam alaikum this is not for me but for Almighty ALLAH swa i'm just the vessel" please tell me where i can find materail the is truthfull esp. for woman. I have some basic ideas but not sure how to porceed" right now i have no computer at home i come to the library yo learn the mosque here in ocala florida is here but no one answers the phone'. No car at the moment. do i do the same as a man in wudu the clothing that i wear covers more than a man. on my cycle how do i prayer? can i Prayer? tell me how to purife what needs do i wait 40 days to shave or can i do it daily? just lots of question sorry

proudmuslima3 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 01 April 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 24	Post Options Post Reply Quote proudmuslima3 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2009 at 2:47pm
	Asalamu Alaikum Sister May Allah protect you and guide you, and Alhamdulilah that you desire to learn !!! I can understand my situation was that once i took my shahada my husband was my only teacher and nobody in our community reached out to me. So Alhamdulilah i read books, got on the computer, listened to tapes and cd's and dvd's. At times my Iman was low but I ask Allah to help me and guide me. August makes 4yrs. since i took my shahada and i dont regret it at all even when im low. Keep your self close with Allah and he will make it happen for you. Insha Allah.

SeekingElm Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Starter Female Joined: 07 May 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1	Post Options Post Reply Quote SeekingElm Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2009 at 7:02pm
	Salamu alaikum Sister, I'm sorry for your worry and sadness. I am a new revert as well. I have a lecture that talks about the rights of the woman over her husband. One of those rights is that he must educate you. If you are not educated on Islam you will be open to all kinds of fitnah. When I came to Islam I had no one really. I learned through books and lectures. Don't be afraid to ask other sisters at the masjid for help. I know sometimes it can seem like your alone even amongst the sisters when you go to the masjid, like me, especially cuz i'm so shy. But I believe that if you try, someone will definitely lend you a helping hand Insha Allah. Have you spoke to your husband or asked him questions about things you want to know or are not sure about? Maybe you could find out if one of your local masjids have some classes, many of them do. May I suggest to you "An-Naw Awis 40 Hadith", also look for a book on Muslim Ettiquettes, Salat, and read your Qur'an for guidance. P.S. Make sure what you read is valid, you would want to make sure its not "bida" (innovation), make sure it is backed up w/Qur'an & or Hadith. "Every innovation is a going astray and every going astray leads to the hellfire". You can email me @ lotusdfind at gmail dot com. I'm happy to help you with any questions, I'm not saying I know everything, but I have studied a lot. Also, much of Islam is about seeking elm (knowlegde) and defining your heart in the circles of knowledge. Good luck and Asalamu Alaikum, don't hesitate to contact me sister. Edited by icforumadmin - 08 May 2009 at 2:58pm