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Again Suleyman, I appologize.

 

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J.R.

When do you plan to see your husband again? Does he want you to come to where he is? Did he stop seeing this woman? I wish your family were more supportive.

Again, I am sorry this is happening to you......

 

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Assalamu Alaikum,

Brother Suleyman, I don't think anyone was laughing at your English.
Domestic violence is a very sensitive and emotional topic for anyone and
you have also been affected by it because of what happened to your
sister. I am sorry to hear of your situation. You're in my prayers. I don't
think any one in here wants you to leave the forum. I welcome a brother's
input and would appreciate it if you could continue to come in and share
your wisdom with us.

Peace,
J.R.
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Salaam Sis. Lameese,

I plan on moving pretty soon. He has agreed to stop seeing her. actually,
she left the country and is working abroad now. I told him when I get out
there he and I will contact her where she is so I can make sure she knows
he's married. He will not reply to an email (when and if she sends one)
nor answer her calls. I'm still keeping my guard up and am giving him no
definite answer. I have asked him the past few days, before she left, if
she called him and he has been honest and told me she has. I make him
tell me every word that passes between them. I'm still having very
emotional moments through the day. I know I'm being tested, but how
exactly? Is this a test of my compassion and forgiveness, knowing people
desrve a second chance, considering he just called me out of the blue last
week and told me what he did. Or is it a test to see the level of my faith
as I divorce him and try to make it alone on my own? I'm praying.

J.R.
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Originally posted by J.R. J.R. wrote:

Salaam Sis. Lameese,

I plan on moving pretty soon. He has agreed to stop seeing her. actually,
she left the country and is working abroad now. I told him when I get out
there he and I will contact her where she is so I can make sure she knows
he's married. He will not reply to an email (when and if she sends one)
nor answer her calls. I'm still keeping my guard up and am giving him no
definite answer. I have asked him the past few days, before she left, if
she called him and he has been honest and told me she has. I make him
tell me every word that passes between them. I'm still having very
emotional moments through the day. I know I'm being tested, but how
exactly? Is this a test of my compassion and forgiveness, knowing people
desrve a second chance, considering he just called me out of the blue last
week and told me what he did. Or is it a test to see the level of my faith
as I divorce him and try to make it alone on my own? I'm praying.

J.R.

 

W's Sister J.R.,

I am glad that you are keeping your guard up. And I think it is smart of you to want to talk to her to let her know your husband is a married man. I know you are going through a hard time right now but Insha Allah you arrive at the decision that needs to be made, whatever that may be. I am sorry you do not have your family support and I am sorry that you have no close friends to lean on at this time. I will continue to pray for you.

 

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Salam,

Again sister, leave him;bad news
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Originally posted by Lameese Lameese wrote:

Again Suleyman, I appologize.

 

Lameese

Es_Selam'un Aleykum Sister Lameese,

Sister,in english we use one p while writing "apologize";may be this will remind something for you(everybody can make mistakes)...joke...no heartbreak, i am back and no need to appologize;but you can apologize and accepted while no needed...

I am back and will be more serious in further days, i have some responsibilities in the board...wa salaam...

a note:i wish no one will make complaints for my serious mode as i heard one year ago then i decided to leaving being serious by the cause of the complaints i heard and now i hear complaints by the cause of my liquid mode...i'll try to find the mid-point....
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Originally posted by Suleyman Suleyman wrote:

Es_Selam'un Aleykum Sister Lameese,

Sister,in english we use one p while writing "apologize";may be this will remind something for you(everybody can make mistakes)...joke...no heartbreak, i am back and no need to appologize;but you can apologize and accepted while no needed...

I am back and will be more serious in further days, i have some responsibilities in the board...wa salaam...

a note:i wish no one will make complaints for my serious mode as i heard one year ago then i decided to leaving being serious by the cause of the complaints i heard and now i hear complaints by the cause of my liquid mode...i'll try to find the mid-point....

 

Thank you for the correction brother. Let all here know that I stand corrected for my lack of spelling!  I could never spell. That is a great downfall for me.

Suleyman, do not change who you are, I believe you to be good the way you are.

Thank you again for accepting my apology. (and thanks for the correct spelling!)

 

Lameese
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