Mutliple Wives

In my experience even parents find it difficult to love their own children equally. So it is hard to believe that there are men who can love multiple wives equally. Also, I want at least one lady on this forum say, I wish men would ask their first wife for her consent before taking on another. And perhaps polyandry would make sense in certain cases (say the husband is sterile). So why don't muslims support it?

Be that as it may, that's why I believe that religious books should restrict themselves to a few fundamental good deeds, and leave the rest to people to decide what is best for them. Because these things change with time and locale. In practice, that's really what happens. For example, all these quotes from Koran are well and good, but many would be illegal in countries like USA.

Peace,

Human. 

Peace

human wrote: In my experience even parents find it difficult to love their own children equally. So it is hard to believe that there are men who can love multiple wives equally.

Well if your used to the U.S.A. you really have not experienced a love like
Islam or other people who are true to there faith., i understand and heard
this before. But history has proved that men abused this in western
religions by having hundreds of children like J.S. Bach or King Solomon
(PBUH) for example but this abuse calls for redemption.

human wrote: Also, I want at least one lady on this forum say, I wish men would ask their first wife for her consent before taking on another.

The first wife should always Marry with the promise before the
witnesses that the husband always asks her permission unless they do
not love each other any more later and there is a seperation.
Its a duty to ALLAH that comes first though, and very strict for the
brothers to support the wives.

human wrote: And perhaps polyandry would make sense in certain cases (say the husband is sterile). So why don't muslims support it?

Un fortunatly, this is impossible for any human bieng since it envolved
having marriages at the same time and supporting the men and feeding
children too.

      Polygamy is not about having several sexual partners as it the non
west miss inter-pits it, i say west since India practices polygamy
abusively, Polygamy is about been married to several wives at the same
time avoiding divorces., no woman can have several houses with several
husbands and the babies in different houses at the same time, impossible
to do for any human beings.,

      But there is a acceptation to a agreement on the wife's side if she has
lots of money and accepts to support her self in the case there is a
separation between them and he is going to leave for another woman or
she prefers her own place and a devorce.

human wrote: Be that as it may, that's why I believe that religious books should restrict themselves to a few fundamental good deeds, and leave the rest to people to decide what is best for them. Because these things change with time and locale. In practice, that's really what happens. For example, all these quotes from Koran are well and good, but many would be illegal in countries like USA.

There was never anything illegal in the Qur'an in the U.S., Islam allows
people to worship how they please and with any religion they please, but
they can not attack muslims for there faith, especially the way they did to
Jesus (PBUH) and others who spoke out against oppression by tyrrants.

Polygamy has only been called up in certian countries to be stopped in
the recent 80+ years from the fears conservative Catholics had of the
growing religion of islam., and to control the population and economy.,
for Islam means peace and ALLAH rules over life and death.

Mormons still practice polygammy in the U.S. so the so called war on
islam is and was a secret war all along.

Also, the U.S. A has adopted more Islamic laws then any other western
countries,
-Equal rights,
-Freedom of speech, where woman still can not talk to a priest today.
-Non discrimination of race or the sexes, I can go on....

Basically the U.S. adopted and exploited these beliefs by mixing them up
with a economical system which defers to secure woman's rights., to
simply put it, a capitalist society is about the money., not deeds., and
certainly not a democracy word by word a fact.

Many try to argue with this facts that Islam means peace in society, but
they have no evidence to support but that they fit into the pack of
hypocrites who fallow conjecture and take false witness, usually from a
racial point of view to reject the idea that God created arabs too., so what
God is it that created them who could not create me and you then? sound
slike Statan's tribe?

It is not in anyones right to Judge Islam, Believers (Muslims, Jews or
christians) and or even ALLAH ( God )by the mistakes people make., we
are all here to over come the tests with abstinence over lusts.

I believe Islam's guidelines also prohibit also the arab tribal or religious
sect ideas of man made laws like for example "pre marriage
arrangements" with the prides face covered

Edited by jibreel

Oh my god- A muslim womans worse nightmare. I'm married into a wealthy family in the middle east and I love islam, but i've told my husband that if even thinks to marry i'll leave, and he can have everything, who cares about money. I have so many friends that their husbands have married on them and who do they marry, dancers/ nightclub singers. Their nice American muslim wife having baby after baby covered from head to toe. How can these men use islam? That's why women get angry/ when married men take another wife it's not a widow or older woman/ women from war areas.It's usually a virgin or someone he has fallen in love with. please forgive me i've had too many friends with bad experiences.

Oh come on Jibreel I've seen it with my eyes, women left with nothing and no rights. Womens rights in Saudi, lol