accepting a muslim household

Hi Hayfa,

 

I make the difference between asking for something, and a simple blackmail, and what her husband is doing is not "to ask" for something.

 

Sure it's his right to ask his wife to be a Muslim, but he has no right to tell her "you become Muslim, or I will leave you and your children". That's the worst thing ever!!

 

And for me, the key of the story is that after the first problem in their relation, he already started looking for another wife, a Muslim wife... come on!!! He is a cheater, and I know what I am talking about because I know thousand stories in the same line of Marie's story.

 

Really, sometimes I would like to star a war against the relations between Christian women and Muslim men. They get whatever they want from us, with nice words, with lot of details and getting all our confidence, and sooner or later they distroy our lives in one way or another. I start being tired of this thousand of situations where a Muslim who has never been a good Muslim, suddenly discovers that he is a Muslim and wants ... well, I don't know what they want, but they forget that they already made their life with a woman who gave them everything. So many lives distroyed, so many women alone with children because their husband or boyfriends suddenly remembered that he was Muslim. And it seems it's free.

 

I cannot understand their behaviour, sorry. It's so difficult for me to understand how is it possible that a man who was supposed to love you, the father of your children, suddenly "feels" that if you don't "change your God", he will stop loving you and your children... really, maybe there is someone here who can explain it to me, myself I cannot. And I am another victim, Hayfa. I was cool during the time my ex was in Spain. We were living together, everything was perfect. He was Muslim and I did the impossible to help him to improve as Muslim. But from beginning, since he met me, he knew I was Christian, and he was the one looking for me, the one who made me fall in love with him. But see, after 3 years, after knowing all my family and all that, suddenly he remembered he was from an Arabic country where there are Muslim women, and he came back home to marry one of them. But I should not be worried, because he "loves me" more and more everyday... Well, better to sut up, because I am talking too much. But I hope the point is clear here.

 

We are victims, Hayfa. But at least, I didn't get children.

 

Regards

Patricia

Chrysalis wrote: How about you give it a try ? Living in Saudi ? for a while ? (suggesting this because you seem to love your husband, and have been married 13yrs, kind of hard to throw all that away). Its going to be a huge cultural change, but people move all the time. Many a times because of career etc. Who knows, you might like it ! If after a month (or a week !) you still feel its not the life for you - you could go back.

 

Really?  Are you sure she could go back?  I hear stories all the time about women being taken by their husbands to live in Saudi Arabia and discovering that they are virtually held prisoner there.

 

I don't want to debate this because I don't know enough about it and haven't time anyway.  But I urge you to be very cautious about going to Saudi Arabia and just assuming that you can leave the country any time you want, without your husband's consent.

try findout which is the true relegion,believe me u will feel that islam is really a way of life and all other way is an illusion.

 

he is facing a big guilt in his heart as his wife is not a muslim and above this his children,allah will never forgive him if his children turn to another relgion because she chose a nonmuslim mother for them.

 

its hard to preach on this site what islam is,martah,haifa connect to the great ladies who chose islam the way of their life,there are many,go forum new muslims.ur husband loves u and ur kids thats he is back.this not a sign of taking divorce,he is free to marry second but he is trying to convince u only.

 

u  might feel i m forcing u to be a muslim but that is not true finally its ur heart which will decide,

i pity your husband state of mind,he must be in a great pressure,support him in this difficult time.