Husbands Helping out?

Salaam sisters, I was wondering how you all feel about your husbands helping around the house. Before I got married I made it very clear that I would not do all of the housework and child care myself and my husband agreed. I have held him to it and he probably does about 25% of the house work. Mainly vacuuming, yardwork, taking out the garbage and recycling and helping clean the kitchen after dinner and putting away clean laundry. He also probably changed about 15% of the diapers and does kids baths and bedtime routine about 15% of the time. I feel this is fair for now since I am not working and he usually works alot. I do all the cooking though and although I enjoy it, sometimes it gets really old. When we had more money we used to have a cleaning lady come twice a month that would clean the house from top to bottom. We are planning on having one again next year. Anyway I feel that all sisters should expect husbands to help if they don't provide a maid and from  what I have read this is Islamically correct. I hope you all have a good situation.Peace

Assalamu Alaikum,

One thing I wills ay for my husband is that when we were together he was
very considerate of my needs. He offered again and again to help me
cook, even when I told him it was my pleasure to do so. He asked if he
could help with countless things I was doing. He often said he would
much rather help me do chores around the house so he could share that
time and be around me rather than just be by himself while I was doing
them. Man, he does have many good qualities. So confused!! But yes,
the Prophet (saw) often helped his wives with house-related issues. Our
beloved Prophet respected women so much and treasured their opinions
and company. All Muslim men should follow that example.


Peace,
J.R.

I agree Saido, I have 7 children and weekly dinner partys for at least 30 people; theres no way i can do it alone.

Salaam

Jenni, I think so too that our job is more physically and may I add mentally hard just thinking about everything in the house and the kids and when the is a doctors appointment, or what to cook, or......... I could keep going.

True the husband goes to work and I respect how much he has to put up with just to put food on the table, but when he comes home he has nothing to worry about while the wife is usually still running around the house from the "kids", and house work (which never ever finishes). So even though the husband doesn't help around he should atleast appreciate what she is doing.

But, I am not talking about me just in general 'cause I see most of my friends that their husbands don't care or appreciate what they do.

My husband helps around sometimes, but I don't like to tell him to help me work in the house 'cause I do think that that is a females job, cooking maybe sometimes, kids definitly.

Peace