Sisters read this!

Now deep down the feelings some of you have upsets me. First it starts off as preference but as you sisters with the exception of a few here explain yourself more it sounds more of sexism than anything. Now this perhaps is unintentional because you have your beliefs and you align them with Islam which is understandable. But if you have left it as a preference then I would as a man except that logically, but its illogical to say (in my humble opposition) that backgrounds should be checked especially if you're a man!

This raies another issue within our community we (and I'm making up a word here) hyper-genderize our society. This has nothing to do with mizing but in regards to daily issues concerning ourselves. We are too afriad to talk openly about sex because of culture (non-Islamic that is) we do not discuss openly what bothers us mentally. We do not try to understand each other. Perhaps this is the only and open prt of our community that bothers me. We most of the times try to separate ourselves rather than unify ourselves and again this is not about mixing. This reminds me of a sister today whom I said As'Salaamu Alaikum all the time I see her at work yet she never looks at me nor greets me back. again this has nothing to do with mixing or lust but of respect to her I greeted her and according to our faith it is mandatory to greet back.

To me I have an edge in the sense. Because I was raised by a woman I understand (as I am myself) sensitivity and about certain issues that women deal with regardless of ethinicity. I believe that the issues dealing with women are historical and modern as well as personal and emotional on all fronts. But herjihad I raise the question as well as you other women how can you expect a man to learn and understand you if you choose to be seperate from him? Again this is not mixing....I've said this so many times so I hope non of you sisters turn this as a way of mixing. This is the one thing I respect of non-Muslim women is that most do ask questions about what men need and expect of women. No offense sisters but herjihad that really bothers me......

herjihad wrote: Just as I prefer a female doctor/nurse practitioner, I also prefer female friends.

I have nothing wrong with your preferences, as I do agree with them, but please tell me, how do you get to know the opposite gender if you don't share, or expect them to get to know and understand you? 

Bismillah,

Salaams,

Specifically sexual assault in the medical field is perpetrated by men in numbers significantly increased over that of women similar to the main population in America and the world over.  The numbers tell me that statistically it is safer to be seen by a female medical professional where my privates are concerned.  Also, as I said, I simply prefer the company of women to that of men.  I enjoy talking with my female nurse practitioners.  I have seen male doctors and they were polite and informative.

Men should study and practice all fields of the medical profession, just as women should.  The more knowledge the better.  There are enough women who don't mind seeing a male, or who indeed prefer it for my preference to be statistically non-significant.