Household payments

Abu Loren does that imply you believe her husband went to hajj with stolen wealth?

Abu Loren wrote: It seems to me that Ron Webb knows more about Islam than abuayisha.

  Not a chance, but thanks anyway!

And to be fair, abuayisha didn't say you were wrong.  He just wanted some evidence, which is always a good thing. 

Thank you all for your interest and your insightful and helpful comments. To be clear, my husband agrees that he should pay money each month, and has even agreed what that amount should be. Over the past four years however, since we made the agreement (at my insistence because he was paying nothing since 2004, despite me asking for support and him promising it) he has paid me that agreed monthly sum just 10 times. He has occasionally bought our son expensive but totally unnecessary gifts, and then when I have asked for the agreed monthly amount he points to the gifts and says 'there is the money'.
So to say that he needed to plan in advance for the Hajj and therefore could not pay the money is incorrect. His family and the monthly support we need is not a surprise for him. In fact I just realised that he must have lied to me for a long time if he planned for the Hajj in advance! Good point Abuayisha.