Interracial relationships

As'Salaamu Alaikum brothers,

I'm sure those of you who have seen my post regarding this issue (as well as the moderators) are probably tired of me bringing this up, but I have to say that this issue needs to be widely address. The lack of addressing this issue also says a lot about our Ummah (Muslim community). Under the guidance of Allah we are united under one single principle. Those in which assist in forming those principles are those keyelements that we need to retain one of which the prophet Muhammad spoke before his death was doing good deeds, and that, that is the determinant for the herefater.

He aslo stated that no white (person) is better than a black (person) and no black (person) is better than a white (person) only through good deeds. Now unfortunately centuries later there are still racial tensions in our community. In regards to choosing a mate a lot of cultures mostly Eastern and South asian culture tend to instill this cultural endogamy upon their children. If a daughter decides to marry a white man even if he shares the same faith I've seen that has become a problem. The question is why?

The usual response I get is: Well its called cultural compatibility. How can such an individual marry another from a different culture if he doesn't understand it? It wouldn't work out.

My response: How do you know? If the daughter chooses to marry outside the culture then its her choice and ultimately her decision. If the individual pleases her and respects her then why does culture in that instance matter? Isn't kind deeds and respect for our wives a rule in which the prophets addressed in Hadeeth? Didn't Allah say that we all were created in various forms and colors to know each other? Did he not say we are all from one single soul?

There is no refutation to what I say except ones ignorance of scripture and truth, and therefore we will still live in denial that racism doesn't exist in the Muslim community. Racism does exist in the Islamic community and what is funny is that we look at western society and complain, but the one thing I do respect is that western society does address the racism issue and event hough it still exist within that society it is still addressed by those men and women to address them unlike some of us within our community.

One of the things the prophet Jesus (AS) said in the Bible that I remember was "How can you take the needle out of your brothers eye when the needle is in your own eye?" translation: Why focus on one issue if you have an issue of your own?

Sound familiar?

Glad you brought that up!

The problem here is what you mentioned "The father" first and foremost one of the things about Western society is that family is family and marriage is marriage there is no in between. My family is not involved in who I marry to the extent that they make decisions for me. If I love someone who is "over weight" or has blond hair and blue eyes that is of my own concern, not theirs. What makes this a "problem" is that certain culture instill these so-called values in their children especially if they're Muslim.

For example why when a father discusses these issues with their child would say "Marry this Pakistani" and not this Black man for the Pakistanis has more in common with you than the black man. Now to me that doesn't make sense. Without knowing the other person he automatically suggest marriage with the pakistani. Why? because he's black and assumes that this individual doesn't speak the language? Suppose that this person has lived in Pakistan and is well aware of the language and culture? There are so many loop holes.

There is nothing wrong with a person liking another who they desire. What becomes a problem and contradictory to the teachings of Islam is that cultural preference is more important than the good intentions. Not everyone from a Middle Eastern or of South Asian culture believes in this. I believe what makes things "common" to people are not just culture but individual interest and the good intentions of another not the cultural affiliation. To me this is the problem with our community. Now if you can find a justification for this then I'd like to see it abu!

Also adding to this the "more you have in common" stuff. That isn't always true bro ever heard of opposites attract? the reason Arab girls and Pakistani girls marry outside their culture here in the U.S is because the American culture is so different. A lot of women find that too much similarity is boring hence you dont learn from others I tend to find this quite true.