Question for muslim brothers

Mishmish, I know there is a surah that says Allah only helps those that helps themselves. My husband became an engineer and then got an M.B.A. through hard work, studying and the help of his family. Of course Allah helped too and gave him the chance, but he had to work for it. He had to score higher on tests, study harder and shine to get where he is today. Some people are poor in the west because they are lazy or do not want to better themselves. I am only saying some, many are poor because they have not been given the same chances in life. And of course being well off does not mean your kids will be perfect. However, going to good schools and living in a nice clean neighborhood is a definit plus for kids. We live where we do because of the school, and it is amazing. I have seen others within 10 miles of me that look dreadful and the scores are terrible. My husband is southasain so we consider education to be the first priority for our kids. He wants them both to be doctors, ESPECIALLY our daughter. I will try and so will he to do everything in our power to give them the best education and chance possible. And Inshalla they will go far in education and life.

Finally I have friends who are totally spoiling thier kids, and they are at home with them. They don't listen to thier parents, do whatever they want and are terribly picky eaters. I also have friends that work and their kids are great, they go to good childcare or preschool or have thier granparents caring for them. So I believe that it can go either way, it totally depends on the situation. I used breastfeeding to illustrate that a baby needs that time with thier mother as a minimum to nurse and bond. It will improve thier health and well being and it is good for the mother as well. After a child is 2 they don't rely as much on the mother solely and others can step in and help care for them. Peace

Sister Mishmish, well said.

When we try to stay within the limits given by Allah, He blesses us more, gives us more, compensates for us like we can never imagine and i have experienced that. The more we try to stay away from Riba, Allah keeps increasing our provision Alhamdulillah!

May allah bless you and your family Mishmish!

I personally know many women who "have " to work due to financial situations, but I have seen them cry due to the pressure of juggling work and home. I have worked too when we had problems financially. Anyways....It is already decreed how much a man (or woman) will earn in his lifetime....

May Allah enable us to live a life of ease and  in His obedience!

@Israfil

Wait a second I could not help but notice what you just said, "All humans have so-called "free will." I have the will to not get married not support a woman and not do any of the above. However, as a Muslim man to not do such things would defy the rules of God and thus I'd be falling away from the Muslim fold." Are you saying as a man if I don't get married, have children,etc, that Allah will not be happy with me?

Assalamu Alaikum!

I am bit late in this thread, but feel to give my input also.

I strongly believe that it is man�s responsibility to earn and maintain household affairs ( Men are protectors and maintainers ). My wife has been a teacher, but now stays at home, and takes care of kids. Because of her brilliant efforts, Masha Allah, kids are doing best in school. Their teachers are very happy at their performance.

They are also learning Islam at home ( proper recitation of Qur�an and its meanings etc ).

I think that if my wife works outside, we would be missing this once a lifetime opportunity to raise kids in such a balanced manner. And I support her decision to use her professional teaching experience to teach our own kids. When children grow up, and she decides to teach outside, I wouldn�t stop her, but my preference would be that she teaches other kids, say kids of neighbours, at home.

We have no debt as we don�t buy anything on riba. We may not have very good savings ( Canada has very high tax rates ), but, we are happy with what Allah has blessed us.

Jazak Allah Khair Sisters Mishmish and Amah for excellent posts.

Peace