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    Posted: 07 February 2007 at 11:21am

As Salamu Alaykum Dear Moderators,

As you know from your previous actions you have banned sister Hanan for one week then let the ban bieng avoided later with an welcome echo waied on to the empty room,

I really wonder if you really search for the effects of your decisions before being executed,thinking on their results or comparing with the other alternatives for keeping the board away from the side effects of the decisions;or should we think that these decisions are taken on the way of chance without having any deep perspective?,

Sister Hanan was an sister finding her peace in the board,she was an sister staying lonely in an unislamic area with the deep hurt of her death husband,the board was her connection to Ummah,

Do the moderators or me ever being left in desert?,are we able to know how can it taste?...

We as muslims sometimes or most of the times should see the back side of the stories and should keep ourselves from the wrong decisions if especially a sister who is older than us or than most of us especially if she is angry by the cause of her problems and crying to the board with overeacting...

A mature sister should been banned like an elementary school girl and she should have been treaten differently whether she is on the wrong way or not...

Islamicity is the place hugs the muslims with all their problems,this board is more than an fiscal are having it's place on the net....

After the welcome did she turn back?,what we earned with this ban?...

Do we on the perpeception of what we are able to do instead of the bans...

 

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Dear Brother Suleyman,

I am deeply moved by your post and want to thank you for your sincere concern. Please allow me to respond by explaining how I feel today about my temporary banishment and its consequences.

At the beginning, I did feel that my banishment was unjustified and had even begun to erase all of my posts from the forum. I had planned to �resign,� but by the time the week was over I had changed my mind. I realized that my words to brother BMZ, written in anger, were indeed insulting and hurtful. After drafting several letters of apology, never to be sent (none sounded or felt right), I decided to give myself time until the appropriate words would come to me. But then, Allah the Most Merciful, Most Understanding, sent help in the form of a mod Sister. I was able to write my true feelings to BMZ and was moved to tears when I read his forgiveness.

Brother, today I can say that the banishment was precisely what I needed at the time, otherwise I would have probably not realized the anger and other negative feelings I had been carrying inside of me for several days prior to my angry outburst. None of it was even remotely related to Brother BMZ or anyone else on the forum.

Brother Suleyman, I admire your insight into my life and pray that those around you should always benefit from your sensitivity toward others. You are correct, the Sisters and Brothers here are indeed my connection to Ummah, inshallah one day I�ll be able to go to masjid like everyone else.

I want to apologize to all the members of the forum for any hurt and bad feelings I have caused them. Please forgive me.

Wassalam

Hanan

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Welcome home, my friend.

Peace to you always, Hanan!

Patty

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Dear Brother Suleyman, your righteousness set good examplary to all. Your thoughts and views about Sister Hanan's banishment inspire all of us, Muslims or Non-muslims. God bless you.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Patty Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 08 February 2007 at 5:18am

Originally posted by pauline35 pauline35 wrote:

Dear Brother Suleyman, your righteousness set good examplary to all. Your thoughts and views about Sister Hanan's banishment inspire all of us, Muslims or Non-muslims. God bless you.

Absolutely correct, Pauline! 

Dear Suleyman, that was a wonderful thing you did for all of us.  May Allah/God richly bless you always.

 

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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote peacemaker Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 08 February 2007 at 5:34am
Originally posted by Hanan Hanan wrote:

I want to apologize to all the members of the forum for any hurt and bad feelings I have caused them. Please forgive me.

Wassalam

Hanan

Assalamu Alaikum,

Welcome to the forum, Sister.  

May Allah help us and guide us all.

Peace

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Originally posted by Suleyman Suleyman wrote:

As Salamu Alaykum Dear Moderators,

As you know from your previous actions you have banned sister Hanan for one week then let the ban bieng avoided later with an welcome echo waied on to the empty room,

I really wonder if you really search for the effects of your decisions before being executed,thinking on their results or comparing with the other alternatives for keeping the board away from the side effects of the decisions;or should we think that these decisions are taken on the way of chance without having any deep perspective?,

Sister Hanan was an sister finding her peace in the board,she was an sister staying lonely in an unislamic area with the deep hurt of her death husband,the board was her connection to Ummah,

Do the moderators or me ever being left in desert?,are we able to know how can it taste?...

We as muslims sometimes or most of the times should see the back side of the stories and should keep ourselves from the wrong decisions if especially a sister who is older than us or than most of us especially if she is angry by the cause of her problems and crying to the board with overeacting...

A mature sister should been banned like an elementary school girl and she should have been treaten differently whether she is on the wrong way or not...

Islamicity is the place hugs the muslims with all their problems,this board is more than an fiscal are having it's place on the net....

After the welcome did she turn back?,what we earned with this ban?...

Do we on the perpeception of what we are able to do instead of the bans...

 

Salaamu Alaykum,

Here I will add that I was banned for "scholar bashing" and no comment was made by the administration or moderators, they said to me, "out of respect".

I feel the banning was disrespectful and inappropriate and the secret nature was deplorable.  Maybe some people would have been happy to hear I was banned and could have applauded your action publicly.  Maybe a couple would have let you know how disingenous it was to do and especially in the way that you did it.  You made a new rule that banning was to last for ten days and that after a second banning, the person would lose all future posting rights.  That's kind of funny that rule was made the week of my first banning. 

Are you that tired of me mods?  I'm not tired of you, really.  I find some of your moderator posts amusing and some informative and the rest I usually just giggle at.  I don't appreciate your banning Hanan or me for the above reasons Brother Suleyman has stated.  He put it beautifully.

You know that I needed to come back at least to say ma salama, didn't you?

Please comment because this is one of those notice/comment type ones where the members are invited to post their thoughts.

Salaams.  May Allah, The All-Knowing, grant us wisdom and patience.  Ameen



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Sister Hanan: welcome back It has been so boring around here

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