Need help

Assalamu-alaikum brothers and sisters.. I am a new convert (if you can call me that since I have stopped praying and grew confused about islam), recently due to some changes in my life I moved back to my native country Ukraine, particularly in an area where there are no muslims or almost none. Since I am a new convert, I had and still have a lot of questions, I mean at first I was so moved by islam and after I came back here and started reading about it online I became really confused.. Are we really guided by Quran? Or by Hadith and Sunnah? I wonder about praying.. let's say I went on a walk in woods, around here it snows a lot during winter and it gets as cold as -4F, how do you pray? Do you take off your shoes? How do you make wudu in such weather? Also hadith.. there's so much confusing stuff about it.. I think I red somewhere where prophet Muhammad (pbuh) came up to someone who was sleeping on his stomach and kicked(!!?!) him telling it's not good to sleep on stomach, why is that? I heard we have to sleep on a right side, I wonder who cares how I sleep?? And kicking a person? Why not to touch him on a shoulder? Why did our prophet (pbuh) had more then four wives? What about Aisha, why is she "favourite" wife? Isn't it against Quran? And why did revelations about her not committing adultary came so late? ..Please answer.. these are only couple of many that I have, thanks in advance.

Edited by Uri S - 28 January 2010 at 3:19am

Quoting Semar:
"We guided by both. Hadith usually explain about thing that quran doesn't say it in detail. For example about 5 daily salat (prayer). Quran just ask you to do it, but doesn't tell you how. How we perform salat we get it from hadith. As far as I know there is no contradiction between quran and hadith. If there is Quran have higher hierarchy."

Isn't Ouran complete as we say..?

Quoting Semar:
"Islam is not make you difficult. There is many dispensation in shalat. If you can not wudhu, due to sickness or no water, or any other condition �impossible to perform wudhu you can do tayamum (put your hand on any surface then rub your hand, face and arms). Regarding� shoes, when you are in a warm place (inside your house etc) take wudhu completely with taking of your shoes then put your shoes and sock on, after that let say you go outside or whatever�if you�need to do wudhu again you don't need to put you shoes or socks off. If you are not traveling you can wudhu without putting your shoes for 24 hours but if your traveling you can do this for 3 days. Regarding how to perform shalat if you can not do perfectly with ruku and sujud (prostrate) you can do with sitting in the chair etc. Basically in general Islam is easy and doesn't like you have difficulties."

Thanks for explanation and yeah I know islam should not be a burden, yet I didn't get an answer to my question.. Like I said imagine that I am on a walk in woods, it had snowed and theres couple inches of snow.. There's a river close by that is not frozen yet, so I do have water to perform wudu, but can you imagine what will happen to me if I get my hair wet while it's -4F?? Or should I perform tayamum with snow? It wouldn't be pleasant I'd tell you that. And if I perform salat outside while being wet it's sure one of the ways to get sick, don't you think? Answer anyone? Thanks.

P.S. Sorry about my post, haven't figured out how to use all the options.

Edited by Uri S - 28 January 2010 at 3:17am

Why did our prophet (pbuh) had more then four wives?

That order was mentioned in this verse (from Al Ahzaab):

 

God descended an order that �no one was to marry any of the women the Prophet married�.

Before applying that ruling on the wives, they were provided a choice�either to stay his wives and stick to the ruling (never to remarry again) or for them to get divorced at that time� they all preferred to stay with him!

The reasons for such a rule (his wives never to remarry)are obvious, it was to protect the prophet and his wives (whether while or after the prophet passed away) from any form of harm or mistreatment.

Imagine for example, after the prophet�s death any of his wives would remarry, and be mistreated in any way by a husband. Imagine (as a muslim) the impact of this on us!!

Or even if any of his wives would remarry, and be verbally mocked by atheists (who were ready to use anything just to demoralize or mock the prophet, his wives and muslims). You can imagine the type of low talk that can be used in such a situation, no need to mention it here.

This of course was important because the wives of the prophet have a very special stance in Islam (after all they are called �Mothers of all Muslims�).

So, here is the situation:
1- God said the prophet�s wives (9 of them at the time) are not to remarry after him.
2- God ordered muslims not to marry more than 4 at the same time.

In other words, the prophet will have to divorce 5 out of the 9 he had as wives at that point. Those 5 will neither be his wives nor any one else's (unlike all other women who when divorced can remarry).

Out of God�s mercy for the Prophet�s wives, He descended this verse:

 

t is an order from God directed to the prophet (specifically) never to marry anymore women at all (keeping the 9 he already has). And that he (the prophet) does not have the right to replace his wives (divorce one or more and marry new ones while keeping his limit of wives at 9).

And this rule (that applied to him only) was the answer for his situation (since he had 9 wives whom cannot remarry again).

So, from that point on... neither could the prophet remarry nor could his wives!

Special case, special reason and that was that.

 

Source : Blogspot - Fadfation.

 

 Wa Alaikum Asslam Wa Rahmatu Allah Wa Barkatuh


   First, I am so glad to see you brother, and welcome to the IC, Wish you get the whole benefit.
 
 It is really nice that you share and ask about anything you do not understand,, we are all here to learn from each other.

 Well, brother, I am not a scholar, but I am a sister who cares for you and prays that Allah guides you. I want to add my few cents.

Here are some points, I would like to share.

 1- The method of studying  Islam starts from the base of Islam. We believe that Allah created the whole world and put it in a great order. He loves us and wants the best for us, SO that He subhanah, orders us to do everything that is good and healthy for us and forbids us from doing anything that harms us. We need to pray because Allah wants us to be close to Him all the time, to  be guided and helped by Him. But Islam never wants anything hard or difficult for us. There are many many verses in Quraan that tell us how Allah is full of mercy and never asks us to do anything we can not bear or that might be harmful for us.

2.286  On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear. Quraan.

2.185  Allah intends every facility for you; He does not want to put to  difficulties. (He wants you) to complete the prescribed period, and to glorify Him in   that He has guided you; and perchance ye shall be grateful. 

 So if the weather is so cold and you know that it might harm you, so you must NOT use water and if you used it while you know it harms you, then you did a sin.  

  Jabir said, "We were on a journey and one of us got injured. Later, he had a wet dream. He asked his companions, 'Can I perform tayammum?' They said, 'No, not if you have water.' He performed ghusl and died. When they came to the Messenger of Allah, they informed him of what had transpired. He said, 'They killed him, Allah will kill them. Do you not ask if you do not know? The rescue of the ignorant person is the question. He could have performed tayammum and dropped water on his wound or wrapped it with something and wipe over the wrapping, and wash the rest of his body." This is related by Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah, ad-Daraqutni and Ibn as-Sakin, who said it is sahih.

  2.195 and make not your own  hands contribute to (your) destruction; but do good; for Allah loveth those who do  good.

 But Allah taught us that we can never miss the prayer and we need to do wudu or tayammum if we can not. SO you do what is not burden on you and avoid any harm. Do you know that if someone is sick and can not  move any part of his body, he can pray moving his eyelids. SO Allah wants us to keep this prayer as mush as we can, because we need to pray to be protected and safe.. to be close to Allah and connected to Him, He is our creator and He knows the best of us. We do not pray or do any worship because Allah needs it,, He is the Needless but we need do need Him.

 35.15  O ye men! It is ye that have need of Allah: but Allah is the One Free of all  wants, worthy of all praise.

  2- Why did the prophet peace be upon him kicked the man? You should read how he used to be so so so gentle not only with his companions but even with his enemies. He used to smile all the time. He used to put his hand on the shoulders, the chest,, or the thigh of the person he wants to talk to. He never takes his hand from the person when he shakes hands with him until the other person pull his hand.

 The other part of the question about why he should care for the way we sleep,, I think sister Seekshidayath replied with good answer to this, Baraka Allah Fiha.

 He, peace be upon him, did not acre only for the way we sleep,, he even cared for the way we do in the bathroom, may Allah raise your rank.

 3- Why did he married more than the others? I just want to add my few cents. You should read the biography of the prophet peace be upon him to know that there was a reason for marring everyone of his wives. Some political reason, some social reason,, and some other reasons.

 Why does he loved our mother Aisha, RAA? There are many reasons how she cared for him more and used to be special,, but at the end of the day,, the man sometimes loves a woman more than the other women for his own reasons and you know more as a man. Love is something comes from the heart,, and everyone has the right to love the one he wants but he is asked about doing what pleases Allah with them. He must be just in the things that he can do as a human being.    .......................................... 

 I just want to you to stay strong. Being a Muslim in some societies is not that easy. BUT you need to ask Allah to help you and make you stronger.

  You and all of us, need Allah more than everyone else. He is the only one who guides you and lightens your heart.  You should ask more and learn more,, until you reach the moment that your heart loves and believes before it knows. Your heart will love to do what Allah wants before knowing why.. because your heart will be full of faith in him and love to Him.

 I pray to Allah to guide us and make it easy for all of us to please Him and stay close to Him.. I hope you get the benefit form this.

 Note:

 You can use the site of the IslamiCity to study more, and  want to suggest this site for studying Islam online.

An electronic certificate is awarded on completion of each course. This is completely free and online under supervision of Dr Bilal Philips.

http://www.islamiconlineuniversity.com/

For personal reading following site has good commentary on Nawawi's 40 Hadith by Dr. Jamal Ahmed Badi, International Islamic University Malaysia

http://fortyhadith.iiu.edu.my/

 Allah Hafiz

 

Admin: Edited just to remove unnecessary links and underlines.

 

Edited by icforumadmin - 28 January 2010 at 11:02pm