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leen
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salam, I have been married for 1 year 4 months, and was seperated for 1 week, recently (we have been back together for 2 weeks. now) I just found out I was pregnant it's 2-3 weeks, we are not a stable relationship we both are not happy, and thought we would give the realtionship one last try..............and now this. normally this would be a blessing but in this case I hate it, think it is only going to cause more problems. When is a abortion o.k? how soon can one be done with out taking a soul? need some advice, thank you
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Angela
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Leen, Have you thought about adoption? I personally suffer from infertility and though the child would be a burden on you and your spouse. There are thousands of couples like my husband and I who would jump at the chance to raise the child. I mean to be gentle in saying that life has already begun and abortion is really a hard subject for a number of people. I understand cases of incest, rape and when the mother and infant will die. But, if you cannot raise the child. Please consider letting a woman who cannot have her own give your baby a loving home. Also, if you are worried about financial stress. There are programs like Baby Your Baby and the Healthy Baby Initiative that can help you get Doctor's appointments and get help from places like WIC. That's if you're in the United States. There are other options. Family adoption is another one. Sisters, Cousins, etc. Pray to God for Guidance and see what you feel in your heart. |
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Nausheen
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Auzubillahi minash shaitan ir rajeem, Buismillah ir rahman ir rahim, Assalamualaikum Leen, Congratulations on your pregnancy! I am sorry to hear about your unstable relationship. May you be able to work it out with your husband, thru wisdom and understanding, insha allah. Though abortion is permited under certain circumstances - ie when the mother's life is in danger, it should not be in your case. Better if you consult a scholar. As to the second part of your question, one can abort the foetus before 3 months of gestation. This is not to undermine Angela's beautiful proposal, but it would be better for both you and your husband to reconsider. Many times relationships get a new perspective with a new arrival All the best! Maa salaama, Nausheen |
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Angela
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My proposal was only to offer options if they cannot handle the baby Nausheen. My fear is women too often think abortion is a quick and easy answer. People never discuss the other options, especially here in the US for fear of "offending" someone who is Pro-Choice. They forget part of being Pro Choice is choosing to NOT have the abortion and so they fail to discuss what to do if you can't go through with it. I hope the months of the pregnancy bring stability to the couple. To quote a friend, since I do not have one of my own. She says, "You never love your husband more than the day they put your child in your arms for the first time and you look into his face and see your husband's eyes." |
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Bi ismillahir rahmanir raheem
assalamu alaikum click on the follwoing links When it is permitted to have an abortion the following is from the view of a person adopting a child not giving him up but i thought it may be of interest. What is the fiqh of adopting a child? |
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Muslim Friend
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You are not allowed an abortion if its not threatening your life. Besides - i can only put this in one way - if you were unhappy - i would have thought contraception would have been a better preventative than considering abortion as a cure.
Its now your responsibility. I have no sympathy for you. Its something you should have thought through before.Sorry if i sound harsh. |
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Despite our differences, I liked your post the most in this thread. You will surely be/are a good mother. |
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Amina16
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i believe that abortion is not an option. last year in speech class we had to do a persuasive speech and i chose to do it on abortion. When i was researching it i ran to a site that showed the babies after abortion. it was so heartbreaking i cryed when i saw it. why would anyone want to do this to a baby. i mean when u were in ur mom's stumach i bet she never thought about getting rid of u. So why than r u thinking of getting rid of ur unborn child. How will ur child if u agree to have him or her feel when u told him/her that u considered getting rid of Him/her? How would u feel if ur mom told u this?
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