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  Salam sister Pati, I see when Pati doesn't agree it means she has the correct and interesting opinion. 
  
  Dear, I completely agree with you and undersatnd you. I was jsut joking. I now that the real life can't be in his way at all.
 
Tongue   Just wanted to sahre you the discuusion but in fact, ..
 
  Dear .. If it is only you or at least women only, I would have spoken about my ideal man without limits. But in case of an open media, I am not sure if I can say anything. I just could say like an advice for some men to be careful of thier wives. That is what I really meant.
 
    Especially the Arabic man is diffenent in every thing. BUt as you said, we just pray ro Allah to get married to the the good ideal Muslim man.
 
  Thanks alot for posting. We learn form you, Pati. Heart
 
 
  


Edited by Full of Hopes - 05 September 2009 at 10:45am
And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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A word of advice to women "stop looking for perfection" I wouldn't even go as far as to say "ideal." Pati has brought up some very good points as far as how a man ought to be towards his wife or to women but in a forum such as this when talking about ideals its not always the same. It's good to discusss and brainstorm what you want for yourself, its also good to see if you are ready to give yourself to a so-called "ideal man."

I'm sure there are many 'good" men out there but being good and having all these necessary qualities doesn't gurantee a fulfilling relationship. Sometimes a man can have all of these positive qualities and be an extrovert while you (the woman) with good qualities yourself can be an introvert. whether or not you allow this minor (or major) difference affects your relationship depends on the people. But I typically believe people with common interests last longer than those who don't.
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Originally posted by Gibbs Gibbs wrote:

But I typically believe people with common interests last longer than those who don't


so you don't think that 'opposittes attract' ?
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Originally posted by Chrysalis Chrysalis wrote:

Originally posted by Gibbs Gibbs wrote:

But I typically believe people with common interests last longer than those who don't


so you don't think that 'opposittes attract' ?
 
Well, I don't want to put my foot in my mouth (or get my head slapped since wifey is behind me cooking! LOL) my wife and I are different in many respects and similar in many respects. I guess if I were to use my best logic I would say that opposites do attract, but then there is the issue with how large is the gap in personality? Again, if I'm an extrovert and I love to go out and be active and do fun things and my partner doesn't then for her I can compromise or at least meet halfway. Now it becomes an issue if the partner is unwilling to compromise or at least meet half-way. But those who have similarities and find pleasure in similar activities I would say its a lot easier to enjoin in the pleasurable without fear of the other not enjoying them as you do.
 
So although opposites attract, the key thing here is survivability of the relationship and three key questions: a) If opposite, is the partner willing to compromise on the things they don't normally do? b) How much are you willing to compromise?
 
A good example of this is a relationship between a Muslim woman and a non-muslim man. Of course such relationships are taboo in the Muslim world. But if the man is areligious or associated with a religious group, but is willing to convert to Islam then this is this man's compromise (of course the sincerity of conversion is questioned here). But in such a circumstance, the survivability in this particular relationship would last much longer if both had similar interests i.e. both being practicing Muslims. Sorry to babble


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 ideal husband ?  
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Originally posted by Saladin Saladin wrote:

 
 ideal husband ?  


WOW... She is so so lucky!! She got it LOL!!!!

Well..  except ... well... the night is not this much long and I believe you finally get used to the "music"!!!LOL

Thanks for sharing. I hope every men in the world will learn from that wise husband Wink
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Originally posted by Saladin Saladin wrote:

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