The treatment of women

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   asalamu alaykum, 
I would say some key points in addition to Martha's (which were great by the way) would be respect and consideration.  A woman likes to know the man is in charge of the house, but she also likes to know he will listen to her advice and input.  Affection is also very important for a woman.  She needs to feel wanted or else this will make her more insecure.  
I will think some more on this and add anything else I think of.

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Salams_wife Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 31 July 2007 Status: Offline Points: 296	Post Options Post Reply Quote Salams_wife Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 08 January 2008 at 2:04pm
	asalamu alaykum, I would say some key points in addition to Martha's (which were great by the way) would be respect and consideration. A woman likes to know the man is in charge of the house, but she also likes to know he will listen to her advice and input. Affection is also very important for a woman. She needs to feel wanted or else this will make her more insecure. I will think some more on this and add anything else I think of.

sister_a Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 26 February 2007 Status: Offline Points: 12	Post Options Post Reply Quote sister_a Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 January 2008 at 1:55am
	Asalamu alaikum: Additionally, women like to feel appreciated, not ridiculed and belittled. Compliment her and she will do more for you, complain too much and she will do less. sister_a

Angel Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 03 July 2001 Status: Offline Points: 6641	Post Options Post Reply Quote Angel Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 January 2008 at 3:43am
	I think overall women want to be treated with respect, love, be able to talk - communicate (but I think women also need to be mindful that men don't talk like women do and some men cannot express like women do and this frustrates women and so they complain that their men don't listen. sure there are some men you can talk and express themselves quite fine). Friendship, kindness feel safe & protected Share in with the common things and do your own thing too (although that is my personal notion) I believe that you need outside interests as much as sharing the interests you have together. You need time on your own as well as being together - and each individual has varying lengths of time. (also my personal notion) equality share in responsibilities acknowlegement - I don't mean not praising every 2 seconds. Anyway I think only individual women can only answer what women want, because all we can do is repeat the same things and assume, when indivdual women vary in what they want.
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Israfil Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 08 September 2003 Status: Offline Points: 3984	Post Options Post Reply Quote Israfil Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:41am
	Everyone is pretty much on the same board as far as qualities women look for in men and how they wanted to be treated. Interesting.

martha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 30 October 2007 Status: Offline Points: 1140	Post Options Post Reply Quote martha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:45am
	Hi Israfil, Have our comments been helpful? It seems we are all very similar
	some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set

Salams_wife Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 31 July 2007 Status: Offline Points: 296	Post Options Post Reply Quote Salams_wife Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 09 January 2008 at 8:48am
	Women may be complicated, but they aren't as complicated as men think. The comments make me think of that song by Shania Twain called Any Man of Mine. I about died laughing when I realized it was popular in the mideast and asked if people really knew the meaning of the words.

Israfil Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 08 September 2003 Status: Offline Points: 3984	Post Options Post Reply Quote Israfil Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 January 2008 at 12:49am
	Martha yes your comments were very helpful. Salams_Wife I concur that women are complicated but so are men. When dealing with human beings its quite hard to understand what the other wants this is why I ask this question. I hope the brothers are reading this.

lovesakeenah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 13 June 2007 Status: Offline Points: 459	Post Options Post Reply Quote lovesakeenah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 January 2008 at 3:34pm
	As-salaam alaykum warhamatullah I wish I had been privileged to join this discussion earlier.But am glad mash'Allah that my dear brothers&sisters who have contributed so far did justice to the'topic'. I agree with so many facts stated here.And I would like to reiterate that,the complexity of human nature makes it difficult to really understand each other.And I believe communication is a 'major tool' in breaking this barrier. This fortunately enough (the topic we're discussing) happens to be something I insha Allahu want to Write about in the future.The relationship that exists between men &women (Islam as a case study).I have discovered over the years that,so many things go unsaid,unaddressed& somewhat 'ignored' as sacred &a no-go area,which isn't supposed to be the case.In most gatherings,what we hear all the time is how the 'wife should be "obedient" to her husband&not the other way round.Isn't it time we changed that cliche by addressing the fact that some women suffer in silence all in the bid of being'a Pious wife'?The Ummah needs to know that women,just like men deserve the goodness they derive from their spouses in return.They need to understand that,even though Allah has given the man,right over the woman,He did not deny her the gentle treatment,kindness,affection and respect from her husband.The man is the head of the family no question about that.But the woman needs to know she is respected&appreciated for all the support she gives,whether she's working or a stay at home wife.The work she does at home cannot be quantified as it's a continuous one.And this is the reason she needs to feel secured.To feel that her efforts are been appreciated. I personally believe every woman wants her man to be caring.No one wants a rigid,holier than thou man for a husband!What's the joy in that?
	"I have conviction that Allah has power over everything.Verily!Allah's knowledge includes and encompasses everything".