second wife

I do not think we have these laws in Europe.

I thought as long as you do not marry legally more than one wife, what you do is up to you really.

Ok, now I know about this. In this case, then I suggest he does follow the law of course.

I personally would not like to have a husband with other wives but this is up to each one to decide I guess.

Brother, ask youself why you want to marry this other sister. Don't you love your wife anymore?

Allah Marak,

Muslima

Muslima, then you are playing yourself a fool. If you get pregnant and have a baby the man has no legal responsibility for you or the baby. He does not have to sign the birth certificate. He can skip out and you would have to chase him down, get a lawyer and pay for a paternity test. This has happened to Muslim women here.  I am surprised what women will do just to snag a man. I would never do just a halal marraige without a legal U.S. marraige. I am too special and intelligent. ANd certainly not desperate enough for that.

now I know why our Prophet empathised so much on education.... just look at the stuff posted above!..


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Lameese wrote: mazallen wrote: You shouldn't -- unless you are willing to follow every condition set forth in the Qur'an regarding the treatment of second (third and fourth) wives.  It's no accident that Allah (s.w.t) made these so stringent for polygamous marriages.  Besides, polygamy's illegal in every State aside from Arizona and Utah -- and we are supposed to respect the laws of the land .... Peace Actually. polygamy is illegal in all states, although it is done more in Utah, due to the Mormons. But as with everything else, you have to catch them first.   Lameese

Asalaamu alaikum:

FYI the mormons outlawed polygamy in their church over a hundred years ago. The only ones that have polygamy is the supposed apostate from the mormons  Fundamentalist (FLDS) chuch in Colorado City and Hillsdale. They were "excommunicated" from the main mormons (LDS) long ago. I live in a heavily populated mormon area and have had these discussions with some of the people, that is the only way I know lol... Polygamy is illegal in the US and you would give the first wife grounds for divorce, plus Allah (swt) has decreed that all wives be treated fairly, and they could not be if they could not all be legal. But it is your decision and Allah (swt) knows best. Can you support  2 wives?

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