Husbands Helping out?

Perhaps the behavior which you ladies mention is a cultural thing.... All men differ and all men act differently in acccordance to their culture how Zaman replies perhaps is in accordance to how he was raised. We are all products of our environments.

I want to say something about maids&wifes and husbands...

When Hz. Fatimah went to ask for a maid from our Prophet (saw), (because she was so tired to making so many things by her hand and her hands were in poor condition.) He said (sav) he couldn't give her a maid at these moment because the "suffah"* was so poor even He (sav) couldn't find something to give them to eat. So He (sav) teached his daughter and Hz. Ali some duas to decrease their tiredness.

Our prophet (sav) didn't tell her daughter; "you have no right to ask for a maid! You have to do your house job yourself even you need one!"

So i understand from this; Women can ask for a maid (or more than a maid) if they need help and if their husbands can afford it.

I am living in a 1 bedroom flat withouth children, i am not working and elhamdulillah i haven't got any excuse as ilness to ask for a maid. I am cooking for my husband while i'm cooking for myself, i am doing his laundry while i'm doing for myself.  He eats what i cooked, he wears what i washed. (actually what the washing machine washed:))

So if i ask for a maid he will ask if am crazy or not:)

But i can't think myself with seven children, a big house and family dinner once a week.. Sister needs help and i think her husband can afford this. There is no blame to having maid for someone like this sister.

Some of you say; husband doesn't work to get money spend for maids.

However husband should spend on his wife(s) related to his earnings. If he earns much, he should give enough pocket money to her wife. So she has right to spend this money whatever she wants (staying in halal of course)

And every money spending on his family by husband means "sadakah".

So if the woman needs some help, and husband has a maid when he can afford this it's not throwing money on the street, it's a sadakah i think...


*Al-Suffah was the abode of the Migrants who had no dwelling in Medina. They used to sleep in the Mosque, until they could find work within the community of Medina. Thus, whoever found a job would leave Al-Suffah and buy a home for himself. So, the number of the People of Al-Suffah, sometimes decreased and in some other times increased until it reached six hundred Companions. The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to sit with them and let them eat and drink with him. A Companion would host one or two of the People of Al-Suffah and feed them in his house. They used to bring bunches of date and hang them from the ceiling of the sunshade.

Edited by Henna

Yay Lameese! You go Girl!

Kim...

Hi, Jennie pointed out to me that other day that in case of divorce, for example, in Islamic societies the man gets the house. 

Therefore the house really ONLY belongs to him.

So let HIM do all the cleaning. Or ask his wife to help (NOT do it all)

Kim...